How do you feel about your body, and other specific physical traits?

[Magi129]

I suppose that most of this forum probably does not have a good relation with self-image, but fuck, I have a particularly bad one with my voice (is it a "physical" trait? Don't know, but seems the best category). Like, you can basically hide all of your body most of the time, and I genuinely do not feel it as particularly bad when in real life, but always seems horrible when I first speak. Many people have insecurity with it, at least from what I see, are men with higher pitched voices (soprano, etc., which are seen as more femininr), in my case, the opposite, as a male with a baritone, excessively deep voice since 12. I have to say this is horrible cause I feel every word I say sounds harsh, even when trying to be soft. Know when you are talking to the person nexto to you in a class or something and to just that person? OK, deep voices are horrible for that cause they're easier to notice even when keeping it down, specially among higher voices (and mine sounds much more adult). (Also, just to know, I have no prosody problems)

 

[Forveleth]

It took me a very long time to get over hating myself. I used to have huge self-image problems, I was even suicidal over it. It took finally figuring out a clothing and hair style that made me feel good and confident. After a while, I even got in shape (although now I'm fat again ). It took a few decades but I accepted that I am who I am and I can only change so much so I better just live with it. There are still things about myself that I wish I could change but, oh well, that's life.

 

[Jealous Blackheart]

(and mine sounds much more adult)

Are you not one?

 

[Forever Sleep]

I don't like much of me- my face, body, voice, clumsiness, lack of intelligence with things like maths and general knowledge. I also feel bad about the elements I brought on myself- being overweight and stupid.

Still, I care a whole lot less now. It's not like I even want a partner now so- I don't need to attract someone. I'm very isolated too which takes a lot of the pressure off. I weirdly think I could be happier living like this.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

My only redeeming quality physical or mental is being 6 feet tall. Other than that I have too much body fat particularly in my gut, a high pitched whiny voice, and a tiny tiny wiener.

 

[Namelesa]

I used to hate my body so much and was very gender dysphoric about it but now I am mostly comfortable and happy with my body thanks to hrt. Some of the things I don't like about my body still tho are my tall height (mostly cus I want to be seen as helpless and vulnerable so others look after me), little bit of facial hair I am always shave (thankful no facial hair shadow) and testicles (hopefully will get surgery to get rid of that)

 

[Timelapse]

There's a lot to hate about my body. The worst is being shamed for it.

 

[FoxSauce]

Lots of it wish I could have a idk hourglass bit mostly triangle shaped, I mostly hate my braod shoulders, I still feel fat. I dislike my curly / wavy hair but im learning to rocket that. It is what it is.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

I wish I didn't have stretch marks, I wish that my boobs were perkier, I wish that I didn't have scarring along my lower legs, I had a bigger ass and thighs, I wish that my hair was longer and straight (straight hair seems much easier to manage compared to curly hair), I wish that I had a nicer looking face, I wish that my hands and feet were smaller, I wish that I didn't have any moles at all, and there is probably more but that is all I can come up with at the moment. There are a few aspects that I like about my body, such as the fact that I have a small waist and the fact that my legs aren't short, but I overall have a lot of issues with my appearance. Then again, it's pointless to get caught up in bullshit like this since it's not like my body is even going to always look the same way that it does now.


I really dislike the fact that my mom and ex-stepmother always felt the need to comment on my appearance growing up. Hell, just yesterday my mom pointed out that my thighs are getting bigger. Parents do shit like this and then become surprised when their children grow up obsessing over their appearance when in reality it is partly their own doing. Even when you get complimented on your appearance it can end up being a negative thing, with it putting pressure on you to try to maintain it or to try and improve it rather than putting your efforts into more healthy and better endeavours. Just look at Megan Fox, for example. The woman is literally consumed by the thought that her entire self-worth is tied to her appearance to the point where she is getting a shit ton of cosmetic procedures to try and fight against the aging process.

People have this tendency to treat beauty as though it is an aspect of morality. Being seen as not conventionally attractive is treated as a moral failing. Beauty standards are getting so insane to the point where it is now becoming a trend for women to get plastic surgery done on their genitalia because they want their labias to resemble the ones you see in porn. I remember when I was in middle school and I stole one of my mom's razors and shaved off all of my pubic hair and was surprised by how my vulva looked. I thought it was deformed because it didn't resemble the ones I saw in porn and it was not until years later that I found out that most people's vulvas don't even look like the ones found in porn. It wasn't until I started sexting men that I realized that most men didn't really care about that kind of shit and that the ones who spent their time making fun of women for how their vulvas looked were the minority. Even still, I would be lying if I didn't say that I still feel insecure about the appearance of my vulva.

People keep on trying to twist this shit into being something that they are doing to "empower" themselves when in reality they are just desperate to meet the new beauty standards and are sometimes even advocating to uphold them. If you want to get cosmetic procedures then fine I guess, but don't try to pretend as though what you are doing has anything to do with empowerment.

 

[GlassMoon]

I'm unhappy with my belly because it is too large. Also, I dislike that my voice is somewhat high pitched. My hair is very thin and I can't find a length at which it will simply sit right after being combed unless I get it cut every two weeks. It always stands up and that makes me insecure every time I see myself in the mirror. I often try to make it sit right using water when I'm in a restroom, but that does not really work. Found some photos of myself recently where I could see the back of my head, and the hair was standing upright. I felt quite ashamed because I was walking around in public places like this. I mostly think that others' hair is ok but then wonder how can they stand looking at mine while talking to me.

 

[Izzythebelle]

I've had a crappy relationship with my body as long as I can remember. Eating disorders and being broke growing up meant I was always super scrawny and I'm hugely insecure about how thin I am, even after years of repairing my relationship to food and eating and exercise I'm still so willowy. I try to tell myself I'm at least cute but I just see something way too tall and too skinny in every way without enough curves to justify either. My relatives have compared me to actual skeletons since I was 8 lmao but at least I've got a cute nose though lol

 

[mikgazer6]

I'm a guy and was very underweight with a frail appearance growing up in rural and suburban parts of the southern US. Lots of toxic masculinity and belittlement. This likely influenced (by a small degree, there was other stuff in my life) my asociality and dissociative nature. The current body I (22) have is an attractive one but I have little feeling for it and no interest in utilizing it. Just having to maintain a body in order to avoid severe physical and mental deterioration is enough to make me wish never having been born.

 

[diviosd]

Sick of it

 

[saturn1402]

I used to be super confident about myself . I'm tall, blond , light eyes , skinny… I even had a few plastic surgeries which made me even happier about myself. Then I ended up in a toxic relationship and I developed a huge issue with my self image. Now I barely can go out, I feel disgusting and I can't stand my image at the mirror…

 

[JesiBel]

Well, time ago I was self-conscious about having small breasts and being short (1.56 m). Now I don't care so much.

Perhaps what bothers me most is that my legs are somewhat curved lol

 

[Zoro1029]

I'm short but otherwise been told i'm very good looking. I always felt like I was wasting my looks since I avoided relationships due to anxiety/depression

 

[ilvgore]

i feel so much self hatred and pain when i look in the mirror especially with my face im looking through the eyes of other people because they told me those nasty words the word ugly stuck with me we constant neglect of my parents just added to these feelings i will never feel important because of my look i think i have sevre body dysmorphia i was asked out as a joke so how else im gonna believe that im worth something when people make fun of me and never want to hang out with me? of course im gonna think its because of my looks and im even ashamed when people look at me i hate that for them cause who would want to look at such a disgusting thing also my short height as a woman is a big problem to me which comes as a surprise to some of you but its hard when u stand out with your height cause girls ur age are much taller so i get looked as weird and stand more out also the eye contact is a big problem cause i dont want them to look at my ugly face right now im trying to improve my looks but its hard asf and when something doesn't work or takes too long i get frustrated and go into depression mode and when this mode is on i dont take care of myself and looks get worse so its a fucking "teufelskreis"
my teeth is fucked because of that

 

[NonEssential]

I've had self-esteem issues from a very young age. I don't like the way I look and I despise myself. I can't even really explain why, I just do as I always have.

 

[tragicallytired]

My illness and the meds to treat it have taken my hair, ruined my skin. I have scars everywhere as a reminder. Wrecked my vision, my teeth are a mess because of the drugs and I'm constantly bloated. I feel unrecognizable, and while it used to matter, I don't care anymore. I just wish I didn't have to go out and work/socialize in a world where all of those things matter so much.

 

[getoutgirl]

I Really dislike my neck and chin. I have bad forward posture, a thick neck with a lot of loose skin, a turkey neck really, with barely a chin. Like it just goes up diagonal, then a lil speed bump and there is my mouth. I know its genetic and I can't do shit about it, my family has that and I see how it gets worse with age. Like I have an uncle who you could claim has a head or a neck, but not the two at the same time, there is just not frontier whatsoever over his shoulders. Big thumb with a face on it.
I'm "good" in a mirror as long as I don't tilt my face at all. At least I am glad for not having a very masculine jawline and chin, but a bit of a middle ground would be appreciated.

 

[Manaaja]

My only redeeming quality physical or mental is being 6 feet tall. Other than that I have too much body fat particularly in my gut, a high pitched whiny voice, and a tiny tiny wiener.

I honestly thought you were like 5'6 and skinny/average.

It's amazing how my mental image of you was the complete opposite.

 

[DivineSpark]

I am little bit fatty, thanks to meds which has fucked up my metabolism. Schizo meds has nasty side effect, massive weight gain. I have been going to the gym at least twice per week,, I think I have gained some muscle mass.

 

[Spicy Tteokbokki]

Technically hate everything if I think hard enough, but I try to find things I like about myself by working on what I can.
Face is my most hated part ngl. Hair as well, but at least I can use wigs or have a buzz cut depending on how I feel like and what I want.*
The rest of my body I feel okay/like now depending on if I am bloated from eating things that bloat me or not, and if I follow a low carb diet or not.
It feels good to see my body in the mirror, flex and have my abs and muscles pop, and it's in my control as well and proof of my hard work and not giving up and being a slob like I used to be.

*Somehow some people do really love my face, though. I still don't get it because I am nowhere near what's popular these days and I've been harassed a ton over it in the past, including threats and murder attempt once. Because of my face, so idk.
Do try not to care about it anymore because what can I do at this point beyond surgery or CTB. Makeup does help but you cannot fix something like a bad nose with makeup.
Definitely spent years obsessing over it, though. Had extremely bad body dysmorphia and spent hours and hours a day staring at myself in the mirror and criticizing myself. >_>;

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I honestly thought you were like 5'6 and skinny/average.

It's amazing how my mental image of you was the complete opposite.

You pictured me with a deep voice and huge thing?

 

[milkteacrown]

I think I'm a pretty girl. Unfortunately, I don't want to be a girl. I wish my body had no curves and I could be fully androgynous.

 

[Manaaja]

You pictured me with a deep voice and huge thing?

I never pictured those, lmao! XD

I'm really perverted online, but not that perverted. But maybe I should be open minded and try new things. XD A setting to display your size and details below your username and title. Iron's size: 3 feet and 3 inches, very fast. Next poster's size: 5 inches, shiny. Some girl's size: very round, 2 kilograms.

Okay okay I need to go to sleep before I get crazier. Good night and day, Iron and everyone else!

 

[Saturn_]

I don't like how I look, but I know most other people probably feel the same way about themselves, and there's always room for improvement.

 

[WhatCouldHaveBeen32]

If there was the need to still exist I wish I was a slithering plant that could just move around easily or a mechanical robot of some kind honestly, preferably something that can fly or move around easily.

If there is no need to exist, I wish I wasn't, simply as that.

I would never want to have a human body, no matter how beautiful , ugly or interesting it might look, I despise looking like a human and this goes no matter what.

 

[Mocha]

I think I'm a pretty girl. Unfortunately, I don't want to be a girl. I wish my body had no curves and I could be fully androgynous.

Same, but opposite gender. I'm nearly 6'3, been described as a "cute" or "pretty" guy (though I think I'm uglier than hell), curly hair (that I don't bother taking proper care of anymore because what's the point), deep voice, and a key sign of being not too damned "ugly" for this evil world is that a lot of the pissants that inhabit it don't mistreat me upon first sight.

But GOD DAMN IT. I would've done anything to be born a woman. Like, a dainty pretty woman you know? I fantasize about being 5ft somethin, cute haircut, womanly features, pulling off a feminine leaning "androgynous" skater style. And before anybody says I should transition, bless your heart but MtF folks get treated so poorly that I think it'd just make me want to CTB off this planet even moreso, and it'd never feel natural; I'd always believe I was some sort of fraud. I just wish I could wake up one day a woman.

When I was younger, most of my friends were women, kinda the "tomboy" types and we'd talk about video games and movies and ride skateboards, bikes together to go fuck around downtown or whatever. But as the years went on and the testosterone attacked my body I became more and more estranged. I just became another guy to them, and that comes with an understandable distrust about motives and all for sticking around a bunch of girls especially because I've never told anyone all this before IRL. No matter how I act I'll never fit in with a group of women again, one time somebody joked that I was my friends "bodyguard". Whenever I see a pretty girl or really any women having fun I get jealous, I hate this stupid Y chromosome and this stupid testosterone. Why couldn't I just have been a tomboy instead? Life is fuckin cruel.

You pictured me with a deep voice and huge thing?

Not gonna lie, being a short guy with a big D sounds kinda goated lol. Like, you underestimate me now but wait til you see my thunderschlong bahaha. Even funnier is I have a friend like that, dudes built like a tank it's kinda insane.

 

[Spicy Tteokbokki]

And before anybody says I should transition, bless your heart but MtF folks get treated so poorly that I think it'd just make me want to CTB off this planet even moreso, and it'd never feel natural; I'd always believe I was some sort of fraud. I just wish I could wake up one day a woman.

It largely depends on where you live and the results of your transition. In liberal California I was out with several trans people and went to trans meetings and it was totally accepted and there wasn't any hostility.
Locally where I live, though it varies, and many do get attacked, but only if you stand out too much and didn't have a good enough transition to where you can pass.
Then there's places like Eastern Europe and third-world countries where it can get even worse or better depending on how much they know/care about the trans population.

Ironically a lot of the hate for the trans population has come from activists and people constantly talking about trans this and that everywhere, as well as further skewing what trans as a whole means. (See: transmed)
Now everyone knows how a trans person looks like, whereas in the past you'd maybe see a tall woman with some masculine features and figure oh okay, just a masc woman, but now you have women who aren't trans getting attacked because people think they're trans for not conforming perfectly to whatever the current stereotype of a woman is.

Having said that, there are people who don't pass and live in "okay" areas, and still feel way better in their own skin compared to the alternative of living a lie and pretending they're something they're not. That's something to think about at least. Likewise some people take HRT but never socially transition, yet still feel better.