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I know right. I cant blame them entirely, they were wearing short sleeves that covered, but every time they moved it was super visible. I thought it was common etiquette to not show wounds/cuts/whatever.
Oh my god I had no idea. I've just started and have tried to hide them just because I know it can be distressing to see, but the antidepressants I'm on make me overheat and sweat like a motherfucker so I've not been the best about it. I really hope I haven't triggered anyone but I didn't realise that it was common etiquette. Thankful for this forum as a place to learn, and I'm so sorry.
i totally get struggling to cover up because of heat, my antidepressants are a bitch during the summer lol. could it be possible to get bandages or big plasters to cover them so you can still wear what you want? or even making your own bandage out of some thin fabric?
That's okay, I am sorry for acting out. Of course everyone's feelings are still valid if they do cut. And I am glad to have least given you some insight :) could you really just walk around with fresh wounds? Would no one be creepy towards you?
Right!? Why are antidepressants like this... If you don't mind me asking, which ones are you on? And yeah that's the plan I think, probably going to look into cloth based wraps/etc. I did get bandages but they were itchy as hell and as soon as I'd drunk alcohol my self-control left my body and I ripped them off. Oops.
No, absolutely no need to apologise. It's really good to hear from people who have been in the community for longer so I know what to avoid. I live in a country where people generally try to avoid uncomfortable social situations and will basically just pretend to have not seen. But I'd never want to unintentionally trigger somebody. I can only imagine what it must be like being surrounded by other people who self harm in a psych ward, I'm sorry you went through that!
Interesting! I take citalopram which is also one of the newer SSRIs, so I wonder whether this is just an issue with them. Anyway, thank you!
Oh no dw dw. In my mind healed scars are compl ok, but fresh wounds are a bit jarring to come across out of the blue. I dont think anyone has bad intentions for showing their self harm (even if its 'for attention', they probably need some attention then). you seem like a really sweet person and not like someone who would intentionally cause anyone distress
I totally feel you, especially with something like this it can be so terrifying to approach someone. If you really want to talk to them maybe having writing up what you want to say beforehand would help? I'm sure if you're kind and show you're just trying to help they won't mind, they might even appreciate you talking to them about it. It is scary though!
