How can people live their lives if they hate them?

[Frem]

Without getting into details my life wasn't going anywhere close to ok for years now and I doubt it ever will. I hate most people living around me and myself both mentally and physically plus I already tried to end it all.
I know people can live with all that while trying to get better but how? Is it just accept your flaws or perish situation? Whait if it's somethink I could never accept or change? Is it even something someone can do alone or is it only possible with someone there to help? And does it ever get good or is it just a endless chase after impossible?

 

[Forever Sleep]

For me, it's because I feel like my suicide would deeply upset my Dad. So, it's kind of emotional blackmail keeping me here. I can't bear the thought of what it would do to him. So- I just try to put up with life until I won't have to anymore. Obligation effectively holds me here.

Beyond that though, it's trying to find the path of least resistance- for me. As much distraction as possible. Just trying to get away with doing the least amount of things I hate. Which is difficult, seeing as I hate doing so much now. I suppose- effectively, making the best of it I can.

 

[etherealgoddess]

Without getting into details my life wasn't going anywhere close to ok for years now and I doubt it ever will. I hate most people living around me and myself both mentally and physically plus I already tried to end it all.
I know people can live with all that while trying to get better but how? Is it just accept your flaws or perish situation? Whait if it's somethink I could never accept or change? Is it even something someone can do alone or is it only possible with someone there to help? And does it ever get good or is it just a endless chase after impossible?

I think it's all about essentially being in a mental state where you don't have to constantly think about your problems. Being on social media will make the average person insanely miserable as you're seeing the prettiest, the smartest, and the most cunning. Everyone else is forgotten. And so all of your problems are magnified if you think about them.

What you haven't isn't what makes you content. It's about how much you think about what you have and what you don't have. If you sit around thinking about what's going on wrong, it doesn't matter how much you have. You will always be unhappy.

If you come to think of it, we have so much more than previous generations have in technology and human rights. There are far more humans in better situations than they were before. But if you look at everything going wrong, you'd think the world is burning.

When it comes to things you can't change or have to accept, most people just stop thinking about their problems and try to forget about it. Most people just run away into another avenue of life to escape from whatever is bothering them. Some are workaholics. Some do drugs. Some chase relationships. People find something to run away from whatever is bothering them.

Honestly, the idea that life is an endless chase of the impossible is coming from a depressed emotional state. We're already in the present moment. That is enough. But when you are waiting for happiness, you're acknowledging you have pain in the present. And it's usually lots of old emotions. I am saying this so that you can see that you are experiencing an emotion, not a logical thought process. Logic doesn't truly exist. Logic is the branches of the tree while emotions are the roots. Logic will always completely break down the second that your emotional state changes because your emotions are what are the most real, not logic. So when you try to put life in a logical box, it's really just you trying to escape how you feel. I'm not confronting you. It's something I am seeing in myself right now too.