Discussion How are people just...happy?

[cylus46]

It's not like im miserable 24/7
I get moments of dopamine and smiles but they are so fleeting and so rare. Then the moments of anguish,depression,rage, insanity are so much more intense and frequent.
It's been like this for years since I was a little boy.
Yet people aren't like that? People just feel happy and when they aren't necessarily happy they are content and or the worst- bored. How? What's the secret?
Why am I broken and they arent...

 

[frayed]

Mentally healthy people exist, I guess?

 

[misanthropemurder]

i think about this a lot.

its gotten so bad that i often think to myself, maybe im just a toy for god to play with; maybe he's watching my tragedy like a reality tv show. there's no other explanation.

and seeing others, so consistsntly happy, infuriates me. why did they get to be born normal?

 

[Hollowman]

I think they're delusional or just really good at focusing on the good things and filtering out the massive amount of bs.

 

[SmilingNoMore]

I don't know, wish I could help. I was also not really "happy" ever, but thought it was kind of normal not to be as happy compared to others, the ones you mention who just appear to be happy and content. Then last year my world collapsed and I ended up suicidal, depressed, empty, etc. I think everything is just so random really, life, circumstances, even where we are born. I find it hard to find meaning in anything in my current mental state, while others never seem to have to look for it. Having said that, there is always someone with more or less struggles than the next person in this world.

 

[FuneralCry]

I personally don't believe in the idea of happiness, existing to me will always be the most torturous and futile burden that just causes harm and suffering, I see no happiness in being burdened with this existence of unnecessary suffering with no limit as to how much agony one can feel just to decay and die anyway. To me existence will always be an abomination, I see existence as the most terrible mistake and I wish this existence was never imposed more than anything, for me only non-existence is desirable, existence itself is the true problem to me.

 

[itwillhappensoon]

If you have depression you experience anhedonia which deprive you of happiness in the things that used to make you happy

 

[quietwoods]

Born with brains that don't have chemical imbalances/issues. Good genetic wiring. Good upbringing and stable environment. No major trauma in childhood/adolescence. Clear defined purpose and have things they are good at. Hobbies they enjoy. Stable career. Strong social support network. Romantic options.

Start peeling away the above one by one and you gradually will get unhappier.

 

[Lost in a Dream]

I think there's clearly something wrong with them. The way this world is, it's perfectly rational to be angry and depressed. Just look at all the suffering that happens here, not just to people but to animals too. None of it is good, absolutely none. Being happy in this world is the worst kind of sickness.

 

[Apathy79]

Just ask Louis Armstrong.

I'm usually happy enough wandering around in nature.

 

[bankai]

they're just normal people. we're supposed to be the same way but aren't. it's like a little bit less of something was used to make us when we were born.
it's not our fault really.it's just the way we are.

 

[usernamesarehard]

I think you mentioned you have BPD in another thread, if that's the case it's understandable that the concept of not always being miserable is foreign.

I used to be ok, now I'm depressed. I never really think about it too much, but if I think back to before I became depressed I realize that the constant negative voices just weren't there. I never really get away from them, they'll leave for a bit, but they always come back.

I think when people don't have a voice in their head telling them their a piece of shit all the time and aren't constantly anxious to the point that they can't do anything fun and constantly wonder if you're bothering people or just have an irrational fear of people, they are able to be happy.

But of course, everyone's mental health issues are different. I guess when people don't have whatever problem makes mentally unhealthy people miserable, they're able to be happy.