Discussion Has talking about your struggles with people helped you in any way, shape or form?

[Leonard_Bangley39]

A couple weeks ago I was feeling incredibly suicidal, made plans to fly to japan and blow the rest of my money having as much fun as possible before ctbing. Through these past weeks ive been talking with my friends online about all sorts of things, even telling them my entire life story. And it's really helped me to feel better about things, to the point that i don't think I want to ctb anymore.

 

[voc_89]

100% NO. In fact, i found out that something that gave me 'peace' about a parent's passing was totally incorrect. I believed that narrative for 21 years. 21 years after they passed. Cause the liars thought that was the better way. Fk this life. Fk these normies. Fk their lies. Depend on u only. Cause only thing out their is liars. Hey if u think i also one. So be it. idgaf anymore. Going to drink myself drunk and hopefully die from that. Though i doubt. fkling normies

 

[Forveleth]

No. Talking about myself does not make my problems go away. This is why therapy has not worked for me. All therapists want to do is have a friendly little chat instead of actively working with me.

Glad talking helped you OP. Sometimes just getting it out there is all you need.

 

[littlecutecorpse]

glad it's helped you out, but unfortunately i can't say the same. doing so in the past has taught me to trust nobody, after i got plenty of welfare checks and multiple hospitalizations for opening up. not to mention all everyone seems to have given me is the same copy/paste words or some generally bs 'advice'. so now even in therapy, i purposely hide as much as i can about my life. not just about my suicidality, but of all the shitty things in life because i know what they'll say will be bull and will not help. sucks that nobody will truly understand it seems like :/

 

[just_a_guy]

No, I can't say it has. There have been times when talking about it has helped but overall, no. I don't even feel like talking about it anymore. I've had it used against me and I've had it thrown back in my face.

 

[baller]

Not really i dont think its helped. hearing people upset at the idea of me ctb or thinking about what would happen to them after is just holding me back from what i want. but i like to vent atleast, helps me not implode

 

[Chemi]

Opening up helped with smaller problems and worries. Talking about the core and major issues often caused me quite a few problems. From it pushing people away since they couldn't handle the truth, to me being involuntarily committed, which felt more like kidnapping.

I can't blame those people, however, for reacting that way. In the end, everybody is just looking out for themselves, and they are just scared. Everything about CTB is just a hard topic for most.

Professionals should really focus more on helping than "protecting" us. Taking somebody's freedom and dignity away never really helped.

 

[angrybakunawa]

No. And I feel like the people I spoke to about my problems didn't care either.

 

[eternalpace]

That's part of the reason why suicide and crisis hotlines exist... Talking with someone can often cool things down and give you a chance to collect your thoughts and take a step back.

 

[cemeteryismyhome]

I'm glad it helped you. But for me, no, it's always a disaster and I refuse to even try. It was always, without fail, one of two possible outcomes for me:
1. The other person gets very angry at me. I have no idea why.
2. The other person starts to get sucked into the black hole, they can't hide from reality, they get this shocked empty look in their eyes like "omg this guy is right, i want to die too"

 

[Dejected 55]

Not even a little. Most people don't understand, and it's not even their fault, it's just hard to understand what someone else is going through. Then there are the people who use your honesty and pain against you. We see a lot of that on this very forum... people open up and are then attacked by groups of people who want to try and shame someone for daring to say they have pain that deserves help because this person sharing pain isn't in their "special" group or whatever.

Even on a site like this where people should be hyper-sensitive to being shamed or put down or punished for being vulnerable... nope, people gang up here to form cliques and shun and ostracize and oppress others even as they themselves will complain about being treated that way by others.

All I've ever known is to be honest and be myself and give people a chance, even if that more times than not ends up with my vulnerabilities being exploited and used to hurt me more and still me being alone with my troubles and feeling worse... but if I truly locked myself into my own head and never trusted anyone again and never tried to reach out for common ground... what does that mean?

But, no... talking to others never helps. It doesn't always hurt... but it has never helped and society gives me no reason to ever believe it will. But I'll keep doing it because what else am I doing to do?

 

[StoicPizza]

No. Don't talk openly. I got betrayed by who I thought were the perfect most open minded family

 

[MollerPlesset]

I know I can't talk with no one because it will get me commited or be used against me in another way in the future. It sucks because it makes me feel so lonely even when I have friends and family. I just can't really say what's on my mind and it sucks

 

[socksnsandles]

no but that makes sense considering im a chronic pain case

 

[Tautochrome]

Nope. I know better than to vent to therapists, (or any people irl for that matter) and venting to strangers online leaves me feeling more shitty and like I've overshared. They don't understand my subjective experiences no matter how well I describe them, they feel awkward hearing about my beliefs and don't provide anything of substance. They also often freak out when they hear about me being suicidal, despite it being my constant state, not some sudden crisis. Still, I sometimes yap to people to kill time. : D