Friend in hospital / ward

[PeterRabbit28064212]

Hey guys ik this is pretty far from the normal stuff posted on here but a close friend of mine tried to ctb a few times recently and has been in the ward for a little over a week. I've been keeping up with her thru phone calls she gets and such but if any of you guys were ever hospitalized what was something you wish someone did for you when you got out?

 

[Rynalia]

Back in my early days before I reached the point of no return, there was only one thing that I hoped any of my friends would have done after I had gotten out of my first ward stay:

Do exactly the opposite of what I asked, and be aggressively involved with me.

Leave me alone. (Don't leave me alone.)
Quit talking to me. (Please bother me more, I want someone to talk to.)
Give me some breathing room. (Hang out with me more.)

I was on a one way street to isolating myself and going straight down to my own personal hell. My friends weren't mind readers, but I had always wished that someone would be stubborn enough or willing to be that one person that would be willing to be there for me no matter how hard I would protest.

But alas, I was allowed to stew in the darkest recesses of my mind, leading me to attempt to hang myself immediately after getting out.

 

[milkteacrown]

Hmmm. I didn't want to be treated as fragile, but I'd wished people kept in mind that suicidality isn't necessarily gone by the time one leaves the hospital; for me, my urge to commit suicide was intensified by a factor of 50. When I left, it seemed as though all of my former expectations returned to weigh on me like nothing had happened at all, despite the fact that I left much worse than I came in.
Many people, including myself, also lie to get out of the hospital early. It's not necessarily a pleasant place to be, especially for people who are technically of sound mind. I didn't need or want to be protected from myself, and I understood the consequences of any actions I wanted to take.

 

[whywere]

For me, and I never had it, would have been someone who was a very close friend who for like the first week at least, be there for me, take a walk with me and just have someone IN PERSON NOT over the net or phone to talk with.

After getting out the silence was HORRIBLE! No family nor friends and having a friend to walk and talk with at first would have been a tremendous help.

Walter

 

[PeterRabbit28064212]

Back in my early days before I reached the point of no return, there was only one thing that I hoped any of my friends would have done after I had gotten out of my first ward stay:

Do exactly the opposite of what I asked, and be aggressively involved with me.

Leave me alone. (Don't leave me alone.)
Quit talking to me. (Please bother me more, I want someone to talk to.)
Give me some breathing room. (Hang out with me more.)

I was on a one way street to isolating myself and going straight down to my own personal hell. My friends weren't mind readers, but I had always wished that someone would be stubborn enough or willing to be that one person that would be willing to be there for me no matter how hard I would protest.

But alas, I was allowed to stew in the darkest recesses of my mind, leading me to attempt to hang myself immediately after getting out.

Thank you for the insight I appreciate it a lot

 

[monetpompo]

Do exactly the opposite of what I asked, and be aggressively involved with me.

Leave me alone. (Don't leave me alone.)
Quit talking to me. (Please bother me more, I want someone to talk to.)
Give me some breathing room. (Hang out with me more.)

I was on a one way street to isolating myself and going straight down to my own personal hell.

god, hard agree.

when i got out of the psych ward it felt like i literally had no one in my life, no one who could relate to me, no one that wanted to talk to me about the time i spent in the hospital, and that i was a burden to my family for even wanting to go to the hospital. i felt like such a waste of a person. right now i'm isolating myself in the same way, but i also just don't have anyone to hang out with at all because everything seems to get in the way. i feel like such a waste and like i spend all my time wallowing because i don't want to talk to people when i'm secretly desperate to talk to people. i hate the way i am because i feel like it's better for people to not talk to me and will tell them i don't want to talk to me even though all my behavior points to wanting to talk to people really badly. i'm on my own so often that i just want to avoid people because having people's company makes me feel even more lonely or guilty afterwards. i'd really recommend keeping in touch with your friend so she knows someone cares about her. being in the psych ward just made my suicidal ideation worse through isolation.