NSFW Female orgasm

[fleischmaschina]

sometime ago I came across this information that women cant get orgasm from penetration alone. Not all of them, but big majority. Now.. that is so strange and weird to me and im curious why is that so? My partner has to non stop concetrate to not cum when Im licking her down there. I mean the whole thing is just…flawed if you ask me. For me, give me a pussy and Im happy aaand…i just cant enjoy a blowjob…weird isnt it? Entire porn industry and culture as well like to portray that blowjob is something realy awesome. Now, i dont know, maybe its my "fault" i cant cum from a bj or she dont know how to do it. Okay back to female genitalia. Vagina is enough for a penis, but only a penis isnt enough for a vagina. What are your thoughts on this, women and men? If you dont mind sharing Id like to hear honest experience from you regarding bj, cunnilingus, can you orgasm from penetration alone etc.?

One more thing mens balls hanging outside of the body is the dumbest thing ever. Just a design flaw straight up. Literaly there so u can get kicked in… completely unprotected.

 

[NearlyIrrelevantCake]

Balls are outside of the body to keep them cooler and not roast the sperm, essentially. It's a feature, not a bug.

 

[IncrediblePal]

Balls are outside of the body to keep them cooler and not roast the sperm, essentially. It's a feature, not a bug.

I dunno, evolving so that the sperm can withstand a few more degrees sounds a lot better than a hanging sack.

 

[fleischmaschina]

Balls are outside of the body to keep them cooler and not roast the sperm, essentially. It's a feature, not a bug.

Okay fine. But ill go further, why is there a ribcage? Well, they say, to protect vital organs…okay. Wouldnt it be great if balls where inside boney structure as well??

 

[U. A.]

Gotta work the right angle.

 

[itsoverforme303]

I dunno, evolving so that the sperm can withstand a few more degrees sounds a lot better than a hanging sack.

It's a chemistry issue. Spermatogenesis simply doesn't occur at our body temperature. All mammals have body temperatures higher than that required for spermatogenesis. Anyway, nature usually doesn't always sustain the best design, just the "good enough" ones, and hanging balls are just one off those I guess.

 

[LastNite]

Pov the sperm in your balls after the temp changes by +- 3 degrees:

 

[Vlad Tepes]

 

[Forever Sleep]

I can't really advise because I haven't slept with a guy but a friend once told me the famale orgasm was rare. I just assumed her partner wasn't all that knowledgable or maybe her biology was maybe different in some way. She didn't like the thought of masturbation.

But then, I felt kind of sorry for her- that she's missing out. Then, I started to wonder whether in lots of couples, the woman isn't orgasming. I think it's kind of funny that as a virgin, I may have had more orgasms than people in relationships.

I also find it weird though. Surely- it would have been a better design to have our g-spots in a more accessible location.

I guess the sad part of it might be that- regardless of whether they orgasmed, women throughout the ages were still being impregnated. So, maybe the location of our erogenous zones have slightly shifted over time. If it wasn't always pleasurable for a man, I wonder if there would be less babies born.

I'm not sure how much 'responsibility' is on the man and the woman in sex to make her orgasm. I imagine it's a bit of both. Getting the angles right etc. Lol.

From the one player perspective- at least 50% is going on my brain I find. If I'm not focussed on the imagery- it won't happen- for me anyway. I'm not sure if that's the same for all women. I think for men- maybe just stimulation is enough.

I suppose that's what I find difficult about imagining sex with a person. Even if they were gorgeous, I hate the way I look. So- I simply wouldn't find the look of me having sex, sexy at all! More repulsive- if anything. So- I wonder if other people have the same issues. Can they only orgasm via fantasizing something in their brain? If they're having to fantasize about being someone else, maybe even their partner being someone else- won't that be insulting for their partner?

 

[Grav]

I think there's more involved to get a woman to orgasm than men. A series of actions and characteristics that have to line up and it's easy to miss one that breaks the whole.

 

[Whale_bones]

If there's any "equivalent" to a penis for women, it's the clitoris, not the vagina. Most women (estimated 70%-80%) need direct clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm. The clitoris is on the outside, the vagina is on the inside. They look and feel very different. With that said, everyone is individual so what's most enjoyable will be different from person to person.

You should probably tag this post NSFW just to be safe.

 

[fleischmaschina]

You should probably tag this post NSFW just to be safe.

Done. Ye I wasnt even sure if this type of subjects are allowed here (if we forget its a forum about suicide haha) so I just did it.

 

[Whale_bones]

Done. Ye I wasnt even sure if this type of subjects are allowed here (if we forget it's a forum about suicide haha) so I just did it.

The title does give away that it's NSFW, but there might be a setting on here like "don't show NSFW topics" (I don't remember for sure), but that only works if they're tagged so I figured it's better to tag it just in case.

 

[fleischmaschina]

I can't really advise because I haven't slept with a guy but a friend once told me the famale orgasm was rare. I just assumed her partner wasn't all that knowledgable or maybe her biology was maybe different in some way. She didn't like the thought of masturbation.

But then, I felt kind of sorry for her- that she's missing out. Then, I started to wonder whether in lots of couples, the woman isn't orgasming. I think it's kind of funny that as a virgin, I may have had more orgasms than people in relationships.

I also find it weird though. Surely- it would have been a better design to have our g-spots in a more accessible location.

I guess the sad part of it might be that- regardless of whether they orgasmed, women throughout the ages were still being impregnated. So, maybe the location of our erogenous zones have slightly shifted over time. If it wasn't always pleasurable for a man, I wonder if there would be less babies born.

I'm not sure how much 'responsibility' is on the man and the woman in sex to make her orgasm. I imagine it's a bit of both. Getting the angles right etc. Lol.

From the one player perspective- at least 50% is going on my brain I find. If I'm not focussed on the imagery- it won't happen- for me anyway. I'm not sure if that's the same for all women. I think for men- maybe just stimulation is enough.

I suppose that's what I find difficult about imagining sex with a person. Even if they were gorgeous, I hate the way I look. So- I simply wouldn't find the look of me having sex, sexy at all! More repulsive- if anything. So- I wonder if other people have the same issues. Can they only orgasm via fantasizing something in their brain? If they're having to fantasize about being someone else, maybe even their partner being someone else- won't that be insulting for their partner?

From my experience, its very limiting of what you can do in terms of angle… im not all that aware of g spot, if im not mistaken its realy hidden on the upper wall toward the belly. A man cant bend penis but some are bent and some not. So you either change position conpletely or you cant do much but to thrust..

Im guilty of imagining having sex with someone else, but i dont do that most of the time, and i think its same for women.

Also, to cum from stimulation alone dont work for me. I realy reeeealy need to abstain for some time for that to work and even then im not sure there arent some images and thoughts going through the mind. I would be able to lets say, haha, think of my asshole boss at work and cum…

EDIT : lmao, i meant to say "I WOULDNT be able to…" how the hell did i do that..

 

[Dejected 55]

From a scientific standpoint... purely based on reproduction, which is the primary reason for sex in mammals... Male orgasm is necessary, female orgasm is not. It really is that simple. IF female orgasm was necessary for reproduction, you can bet it would happen all the time. But for whatever reason, it just isn't required.

So, that's why over the generations, female orgasms just haven't been a thing that was a priority for sex.

Now, if your partner actually gives a shit about you... he should want you to have fun, experience orgasms, etc. He should care and be open and willing to do whatever he can to bring you that pleasure as you bring pleasure to him. It's not that difficult of a concept. But then, a lot of men are selfish and just want their nut and give no fucks about the woman enjoying herself as long as she is willing to get him off without complaint. Then, factor in how women let such men get away with that neglect for her needs... and that's how we get to a place where not only are orgasms not necessary for reproduction but most men are discouraged from giving a shit and most women continue to have willing sex with those men despite not being satisfied most of the time.

The necessary part can't really be fixed... its biological... but men can be taught to care more... women could hold their men more accountable and not date or have sex with such men... and this shit could get fixed in a generation... but it takes women holding their men accountable AND it takes men being willing to learn and pay attention to their partners and put in the work to get good at the things she likes and do those things for her!

Most of my fantasies, truly, are about ways I think would bring pleasure to a woman. I want my pleasure too, to be sure... but man, seeing a smile on her face and knowing I was doing things to her that she really enjoyed and she knew I cared about her... that gets me more excited than anything, and then getting my own pleasure on top of that and knowing she was pleasing me because she knew I cared about pleasing her and not just wanted my nut and roll over to sleep or walk out on her... that would have to be the best... for both of us... so I don't know why people aren't just doing this shit and thinking this way by default.

 

[NormallyNeurotic]

Okay fine. But ill go further, why is there a ribcage? Well, they say, to protect vital organs…okay. Wouldnt it be great if balls where inside boney structure as well??

Thanks, that's a traumatizing image to think of

 

[sadman1897]

Men don't need emotions and feelings for an orgasm . Women need a build up of sexual tension along with heightened emotional support . A female orgasm is a complex psychological process .

 

[NormallyNeurotic]

If there's any "equivalent" to a penis for women, it's the clitoris, not the vagina. Most women (estimated 70%-80%) need direct clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm. The clitoris is on the outside, the vagina is on the inside. They look and feel very different. With that said, everyone is individual so what's most enjoyable will be different from person to person.

You should probably tag this post NSFW just to be safe.

Yeah, the clitoris is literally made of the same tissue and everything. Almost all AFABs get minor erections when aroused.

If a guy wants to make a woman come every time, he has to learn how to use the damn thing. Just because it has a hood doesn't make it that hard to find. I swear some cis guys need glasses.

A guy also has to learn where the G-spot and cervix are. There are many types of orgasms.

Men don't need emotions and feelings for an orgasm . Women need a build up of sexual tension along with heightened emotional support . A female orgasm is a complex psychological process .

That's an oversimplification based on a combination of the "all men=stoic" myth and cis men's lack of understanding of female anatomy. If this was true, women wouldn't orgasm during assaults, and they can. The body does what it wants.

 

[fleischmaschina]

Men don't need emotions and feelings for an orgasm . Women need a build up of sexual tension along with heightened emotional support . A female orgasm is a complex psychological process .

You are female right? And that simply is not true. Where did you get that from? It does show how some women see men as being too animalistic and simple and something less. Thats how i read this and im a bit offended by this.

i like to think bot sexes as equals and i consider myself a feminist but in this regard there is no equality i guess. A man has to study this shit and women dont. It shouldnt be like this, it doesnt make sense to me. A woman doesnt need to do mental gymnastics and write a fucking phd disertation to make a man cum, you see what im trying to get here?

Also, if my woman is lying there during a sex and i see kinda no interest there i just cant continue. There is nothing more arousing than seeing a woman enjoying.

 

[Angst Filled Fuck Up]

At first I was thinking this thread might be kind of silly, but after reading that my balls belong in their own ribcage (aka ballcage) it's all making a lot of sense. Bravo.

 

[NormallyNeurotic]

At first I was thinking this thread might be kind of silly, but after reading that my balls belong in their own ribcage (aka ballcage) it's all making a lot of sense. Bravo.

But would the bones be where the balls are currently (crotch)? Or would the balls be in your chest? CHESTICALS?

 

[fleischmaschina]

But would the bones be where the balls are currently (crotch)? Or would the balls be in your chest? CHESTICALS?

No need to be inside ribcage as long as they are protected somehow. By some boney shell. But it would be hell if that shell get crushed, as in cracked skull or broken ribcage. Well, evolution still has a lot of work to do.

 

[sadman1897]

You are female right? And that simply is not true. Where did you get that from? It does show how some women see men as being too animalistic and simple and something less. Thats how i read this and im a bit offended by this.

i like to think bot sexes as equals and i consider myself a feminist but in this regard there is no equality i guess. A man has to study this shit and women dont. It shouldnt be like this, it doesnt make sense to me. A woman doesnt need to do mental gymnastics and write a fucking phd disertation to make a man cum, you see what im trying to get here?

Also, if my woman is lying there during a sex and i see kinda no interest there i just cant continue. There is nothing more arousing than seeing a woman enjoying.

Offended ? Not sure why … I was simply stating that females typically need more than just penetration and physical means like oral . Good grief

 

[fleischmaschina]

Good grief? Yea i took that as an insult, doesnt matter if it was intentional or not. Have you dig a bit deeper what constitutes for an insult? And the reason why i found offensive is because i find it degrading. And by the way, you are wrong. I think culture is talking out of you. Tipicaly men need to be emotionaly stimulated as well. Sure in men company they say a lot of macho stupid shit, but reality is they dont feel like sticking it in every fkin hole. I am talking about sex, not masturbation.

 

[sadman1897]

haha I'm definitely not wrong. Emotions play a massive role with women and their sex drive . I'm sorry my response offended you , now that I know how sensitive you are I'll be more careful in the future .

 

[fleischmaschina]

Its okay. No hard feelings. I know it isnt intentional.