Discussion Do your Family/People Closest to you know how you are feeling?

[notmuchlonger]

My family personally are not helpful to talk to when it comes to Mental Health. They know my childhood trauma and the struggles I face on a daily basis. Being from the Caribbean there is a huge stigma around mental health, even worse being a man and being expected to not show emotion.

Im just wondering if anyone else has more support from people around them regarding their current feelings.

 

[lili]

My family isn't helpful either.

I come from the Caribbean too and talking about mental health is difficult because people don't understand it. On top of it there is no sense of privacy or at least where I'm from.

I have tried before to talk to family and friends but I don't really involve them at this point.

I can't tell you what to do for your case since I don't know you or your family or friends , but if I had to choose based on my personal life I have found it easier to talk to friends than family. Although to an extent.

For me I try to find a therapist. Although I struggle with this too at times.

I do have my brother that I'm closest with but I also don't want him to feel nervous because he wouldn't know what to do.

 

[notmuchlonger]

My family isn't helpful either.

I come from the Caribbean too and talking about mental health is difficult because people don't understand it. On top of it there is no sense of privacy or at least where I'm from.

I have tried before to talk to family and friends but I don't really involve them at this point.

I can't tell you what to do for your case since I don't know you or your family or friends , but if I had to choose based on my personal life I have found it easier to talk to friends than family. Although to an extent.

For me I try to find a therapist. Although I struggle with this too at times.

I do have my brother that I'm closest with but I also don't want him to feel nervous because he wouldn't know what to do.

I am sorry to hear that your going through similar. I have been told by family that I have demons making me depressed which certainly doesn't help lmao. I may have to try and build the confidence to try and talk to my friends about this. I am currently on the waiting list for therapy so maybe this will help me.

 

[quediuqueque]

They know I'm not doing great but I also don't open up 100% about the seriousness of the issue because they'll worry and I don't want to be stopped

 

[OuijaBored]

They know, they don't care. Always tell me to "dig deep". Yeah, I'm digging real deep.....

 

[SuicidallyCurious]

I sent the note months ago. My time frame for check out is a few years tops. I have cut contact with all but one family member

Today I'm feeling like I want to go really bad. I tried to procure N in my current locale but no dice here . I need to get to Peru

 

[Weebster]

Yes. They understand

 

[Imperia]

My family knows but still wants me to try all sorts of medications and therapy. I guess I can't expect them to let me go...
Luckily my husband stands by me, whatever choice I make. It's this kind of altruistic support that keeps me going, one day at a time.

 

[Ednospatient]

My mom knows I want to die and that I've attempted a few times

 

[onlyanimalsaregood]

My family doesn't care much. My friends and housemates know and help what they can.

 

[ineedrope]

No if I ctb they will be blindsided

 

[FuneralCry]

No, I see it as best to keep everything to myself. Others would not accept and understand my decision. We live in a world where suicide is so stigmatised and our right to die is not respected. I wish we lived in a world where euthanasia was available for me and then others would know about my plans for death in advance.

 

[knowheretorun]

Nothing really changed after I opened up to my family. I just get told the same things as before about what a spineless jellyfish I am, but I also hear claims that I justify my laziness with being depressed. My mom is supportive, though.
Friends are generally supportive as well but can't wrap their heads around the idea of suicide and why won't I just stop having this mindset or improve coping skills.

 

[locked*n*loaded]

For good or bad, I don't have any family whatsoever, so no one to reach out to even if I wanted to. Everyone died over the past several years. It's good in that I don't have to feel bad about hurting anyone when I go. It's bad because there's no one to reach out to, even if I could. Now, a few years ago, when the small family in my life was still alive, and the past several decades before that really, it was obvious, or should have been, anyway, that my life was not in a way that "most" people find themselves at their various stages of life. I think it should have been obvious, too, that having a "life" like mine, over all of those years, would have some detrimental effect on someone for that amount of time. I never reached out to anyone and explained what I was going through regarding the "whys". And no one in my family broached the subject with me, either. I think they didn't want to hear what they didn't want to hear. And to be completely truthful, I didn't want to hear from me outloud what I didn't want to hear, either. And I still don't. I know this sounds like a riddle, wrapped in a riddle, wrapped in another riddle, and it's really not meant to be. It's just the best I can do right now at explaining things.

 

[its-about-time]

Nope !!

They've known in the past, helped me through many psych admissions and difficult times. They all think I'm doing great now though. My suicide will likely come as "out of nowhere" surprise. I am committed to not showing signs of what I'm thinking.

I did tell one close person and I wish I hadn't. Now she's just worried. She doesn't know I have everything in order - a kit, notes, etc - so she isn't taking action. I hate that she knows. I can't fully tell her what I'm feeling, and it sucks to tell her only half. I'd rather have said nothing.

 

[Fadeawaaaay]

People know something is horribly wrong but don't know Im lingering on a website like this

 

[Message In A Bottle]

It's pointless really, I just get crappy advice saying "just be happy". They say I can talk to em about anything, yet they judge me for whatever I think or do - so it's better just to keep myself.

Also I hate whoever released that commercial. Now I gotta hear dad with his whateva, whateva gets ya talkkkin.

 

[Hawthorne]

My family and friends know I am struggling with mental health and do their best to support me. I never have and never will express my wish for my life to be over to them however. Some will not understand, others will panic and probably get me institutionalised. Can't take the risk, so I keep it from them.

 

[Toonloon]

Nope. I'm not allowed to talk about my feelings because I'm employed, going back to school and seem well adjusted.
My deadbeat loser brother who mooches off of me and my mom can bitch and moan all day tho. Same for my mom who just sits around the house all day doing jack shit.

 

[Hurt]

No. I am happy outside but dead inside.

 

[TakeMeBack07]

I told my mum, who then spread what I said out to even my extended family. Now I wish I'd never opened my mouth. I've found out it's easier to deal with internal problems alone

 

[outrider567]

No, they know I'm extremely depressed since she died, but they don't know of my planning suicide

 

[Treeline589]

My family doesn't have a clue. Just two friends know

 

[StrangePossum]

None of my family knows and I don't plan to tell them anything. I tried before and it went horribly, I got blamed for struggling like it was somehow my fault for not trying hard enough. It's much easier to deal with it on my own.

 

[fatefulstillness]

Very few people know about some of my feelings; only one person in particular knows a lot more than the rest. No one knows the full story, and it's probably dying with me.

 

[Freedombus'25]

Yes, my friend or acquaintance called for wellness check aka. Police on me twice today. I talked myself out of it both times. Second time I managed to hide thr cut on my neck.

Im not upset but police and hospital have been traumatizing to me. Nothing will stop me. And now that I've said by there is no reason to engage. So that won't be happening again. I haven't had a friend that cared or I could talk to so this is new

My brother and dad kno as well. Said my bye's as well.

My background is Carribean as well and I've received a lot of horrible treatment from my family. Just recently have they apologized & started supporting me. The suicide they don't get but are trying their best to listen It's hard tho and took me having to be alone a lot to respect my own self worth/boundaries.

My 3 mental healthy workers are great and 2 of em are extremely supportive and understanding. It took a lot of shitty workers to find em but yeah.

Im such a p.o.s bc as I'm writing this I realize how ungrateful maybe I am for trying to die...

I hope you have some support outside of ur family and my inbox if always open if not. No one deserves to be alone with suicidality.

 

[xo777]

in the past they knew
one guy knows everything but i don't know if he understands that it is at a suicide level
i don't know but i feel like people are sensing that something is very wrong this year

 

[downndone2]

My family and friends know I'm depressed and suffer from anxiety. I cant leave my house hardly at all. But only one friend knows I want to die.

 

[sad_gurl_thoughts]

Yes, and that's why they left me…

 

[HappyForever?]

They know my struggle, but they don't know how serious it is. They think I will find someone sooner or later and it's just a matter of time.