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How do you view the human species?

  • As important (speaking as a religious believer)

    Votes: 1 2.2%
  • As important (speaking as someone spiritual but not orthodox religious)

    Votes: 1 2.2%
  • As important (speaking as a non believer or unsure of there being a God)

    Votes: 9 19.6%
  • As important (rather not reveal beliefs)

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • As insignificant (speaking as a religious believer)

    Votes: 2 4.3%
  • As insignificant (speaking as someone spiritual but not orthodox religious)

    Votes: 3 6.5%
  • As insignificant (speaking as a non believer or unsure of there being a God)

    Votes: 29 63.0%
  • As insignificant (rather not reveal beliefs)

    Votes: 1 2.2%
  • Other

    Votes: 5 10.9%

  • Total voters
    46
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Forever Sleep

Earned it we have...
May 4, 2022
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Do you suppose the value we place on ourselves is mostly influenced by religion?

I suppose we can't really be sure how important we are- seeing as many of us aren't even sure why we exist.

I tend to lean more towards us being insignificant overall. Just a happy or rather- unhappy accident.

Just the amount of time we have existed on earth is kind of crazy to think about too- in relation to how old the earth is and, how long other species have inhabited it. I watched something that claimed if the earth's history was represented in a 24 hour period, modern day humans would only have appeared 2 seconds ago!

I just think it's our overinflated egoes that gives us this sense of importance. Plus, I suppose the intensity of our emotions and awareness of our lived experience. I think it's just too much sometimes to think it might all just be random and for no particular meaning.

If religions turn out to be myths, I think that will be most representational of what a delluded species we are. So impressed with ourselves that we believe we can't even die.

I suppose what I do find impressive or rather- horrific- is how much damage we've managed to do in such a (comparatively) short space of time. I'm not convinced other animals have changed the climate of the planet- to the point it's going to become harder to live on.
 
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darksouls

darksouls

Visionary
May 10, 2025
2,722
as insignificant, speaking as a nonbeliever
 
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NameOfAction

Do as I say, not as I do
Feb 12, 2026
84
Significant in what way? Cosmically speaking we are dust, fleeting like a blink of an eye. The world existed for billions of years before us and will continue long after the last remnants of our presence become a vague memory, like water on the surface of Mars.

We are significant to ourselves and to each other, in whatever way we choose to be remembered. Our lives are fleeting and our numbers are large, we are to Earth what fruit flies are to us, possibly even ants, if we dare to claim such ingenuity.

Significance is arbitrary, entirely subjective and universally speaking completely negligible. It doesn't matter if we are significant, because nothing truly is until you wish it so. Ultimately our whole world exists but in our limited perception of it
 
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Captive_Mind515

Captive_Mind515

King or street sweeper, dance with grim reaper!
Jul 18, 2023
675
We're some sort of fast growing mould, that has learned to sing and dance... it's impressive but overall rather pointless and our consciousness serves no useful purpose while subjecting us to all manner of horrors on a daily basis. Ok I'm being a touch facetious here, but still our significance to the universe is mostly just a fantasy in some people's mind.
 
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OnceTheHappiestMan

OnceTheHappiestMan

Member
Dec 6, 2025
78
The famous Carl Sagan quote "we are a way for the cosmos to know itself" may be a great argument for our significance independently of our own spiritual beliefs
 
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Pluto

Cat Extremist
Dec 27, 2020
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Mr.Tristesse

Mr.Tristesse

It hurts
Jul 23, 2022
4,811
As the only sophont species known to exist with certainty (from our POV) I'd say humans are relatively important at least *in* the universe. But not important TO the universe.
 
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SmigSauer

SmigSauer

Member
Feb 18, 2026
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Humans are nothing but animals with a greater capacity for intelligence. Our society is only this complex and intricate because our intelligence allows for such complexities, whereas a chimp society is a lot simpler. We're nothing special.
 
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ScaredCutter

ScaredCutter

Manhattan Cafe
Oct 16, 2025
258
i think sorta important. looking over history and whats been made snd discovered, its pretty impresive what a human is capable of doing and creating. going super deep into the ocean, flying into space, being able to see planets, blackholes and other solar systems from afar, even finding out what mars is like. too bad that humans have so many negatives though.
 
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Forveleth

I knew I forgot to do something when I was 15...
Mar 26, 2024
3,573
Even when I was religious, I never thought that humana were the peak of the universe. We are just another animal living on this planet.
 
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Anonymousa

Global Mod · Get me Out
Sep 21, 2024
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To me you can't really say we are insignificant with how much we effected other species. We have made others extinct, totally rely on us taking care of them, move them to different places on the earth, caged to mass breed them for food, train them to help us and effect their lifestyles. We have changed a lot of how others species live more than any other animal. To me that effect on others is significant to a degree. I am a non believer btw.
 
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WhatCouldHaveBeen32

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Oct 12, 2024
1,101
I view us as insignificant in the grand scheme of things but dangerous to the living beings around us. We are not important.
 
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Hvergelmir

Warlock
May 5, 2024
763
I think it's too early to tell. We're a young species.
Ask again in a few thousand years, then ask again in a million years.
 
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GyreOfAsh

GyreOfAsh

A visible destiny behind an impossible barrier.
Feb 15, 2026
75
I chose 'As Insignificant (non-believer)' because when I die that's exactly how I'll feel. But when I don't have thoughts of..., my viewpoint is more undecided, relativistic, & leans into paradoxical absurdism.

I am the type of person to say "maybe nothing & everything has meaning." I have these annoying & conflicting views because I believe that a thing cannot discriminate between meaning & the absence of it without perception & bias. I also believe that the perception & bias are completely valid. Then there's the argument that if we're here in the first place, we must be important because the universe doesn't entertain illogical endeavors which I also think is valid.

There could be other reasons that I haven't fully realized enough to put in words. But, even still, the reason why I can't value one more highly than the other is the same reason that I am agnostic when confronted with religion. I believe to say that I know the answer to questions like this is to say that I know everything &/or the origin of the universe & beyond. This is why I prefer to phrase things in ways that reflect 'hypothesis' or 'theory' for topics like these that extremely complex & likely unknowable to our species.
 
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NormallyNeurotic

NormallyNeurotic

Everything is going to be okay ⋅ he/him
Nov 21, 2024
799
I'm religious, but not Orthodox, so I'm a bit confused about that spirtual option?
 
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NameOfAction

NameOfAction

Do as I say, not as I do
Feb 12, 2026
84
Typical doomer SaSu answers… 🥱
Then do illuminate us with your own sparking insight

We long for your life-affirming perspective, O non-doomer registered user of a suicide forum
 
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NormallyNeurotic

NormallyNeurotic

Everything is going to be okay ⋅ he/him
Nov 21, 2024
799
Then do illuminate us with your own sparking insight

We long for your life-affirming perspective, O non-doomer registered user of a suicide forum

Didn't you know? They're not like us! They're a visitor
I am a visitor to this site and I support your right to choose, even though I don't personally want to ctb.
 
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Forever Sleep

Earned it we have...
May 4, 2022
14,795
I'm religious, but not Orthodox, so I'm a bit confused about that spirtual option?

I meant that some people have their own ideas of there being a spiritual aspect to the universe without following an orthodox dogma. I wondered if this would make any difference on views of our own importance.
 
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daruino

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Nov 9, 2025
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Yeah, religion separated us from the other animals as gifts of god, and later philosophy justified it by saying we differ by mental capacity (animal rationale). I personally don't really see us as any different from animals*, between the two options I'd lean towards insignificant. However in our current world it is quite clear that humans have more impact than the other animals, seeing as we are the reason for so much wildlife being destroyed and the unnatural killing of other animals. So, I think we do carry significance, but this is viewing significance as: the influence we have on the world around us. If we are just comparing species and significance as "importance" then I don't think any species stands out, but importance is subjective.

*Jeremy Bentham said: 'The question is not Can they reason? nor Can they talk? but Can they suffer?' and I really like this idea when looking at the human-animal relationship. Instead of looking at the animals thinking capacity and deciding worth based off of that- if something can suffer, we should treat it in a way that the suffering is limited.

Peter Singer expanded this by saying that while humans are often considered to have intrinsic value (meaning they are ends in themselves and deserve moral duties) if animals are conscious and capable of suffering, they also have interests[i.e. least amount of suffering], which gives them moral significance and creates obligations toward them. If the capacity to suffer is what grounds moral significance, then there is no fundamental difference between humans and other animals, since we share that same vulnerability to pain and harm.
 
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NormallyNeurotic

Everything is going to be okay ⋅ he/him
Nov 21, 2024
799
I meant that some people have their own ideas of there being a spiritual aspect to the universe without following an orthodox dogma. I wondered if this would make any difference on views of our own importance.
I guess I just get confused because Orthodox ≠ religious exactly lol. Orthodox Jews are way different from Reform or Conservative, similar with Christians. I suppose, though, it doesn't really matter because both Orthodox and Reform would be clicking "religious"
 
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NameOfAction

Do as I say, not as I do
Feb 12, 2026
84
Didn't you know? They're not like us! They're a visitor
Oh! Always a pleasure to entertain visitors by virtue of being a zoo animal in this transparent cell. How lovely to know lurkers come with usernames! Perhaps the bored visitors ought to join a murder forum for more gripping reading material. Or perhaps poke us with a stick, it works on occasion
 
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SilentSadness

SilentSadness

In somewhere else
Feb 28, 2023
1,544
I think it depends on whether there are aliens. Humans only just appeared compared to the beginning of the universe, but the only thing there before was non-sentient planets, which are insignificant. With regards to other animals on Earth, humans are clearly significant since they have dominated most other animals. If aliens exist in other places, then humans might be insignificant compared to them. I think aliens are likely to exist due to the massive scale of the universe. However, even if humans are insignificant compared to aliens, the collective suffering of billions of humans will never be insignificant.
 
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Forever Sleep

Earned it we have...
May 4, 2022
14,795
I think it depends on whether there are aliens. Humans only just appeared compared to the beginning of the universe, but the only thing there before was non-sentient planets, which are insignificant. With regards to other animals on Earth, humans are clearly significant since they have dominated most other animals. If aliens exist in other places, then humans might be insignificant compared to them. I think aliens are likely to exist due to the massive scale of the universe. However, even if humans are insignificant compared to aliens, the collective suffering of billions of humans will never be insignificant.

That's very true. As others have also said, without even knowing the bigger picture of everything, it's hard to know how influential/ impactful the human race will be/ will have been. I can picture us being zoo animals for aliens or AI one day. Lol.

I also really liked @daruino 's focus on sentience. I think we do place importance on emotions because they feel so big. Plus- pain and suffering is so unpleasantly real- so we feel as if it does matter. But then, as they pointed out- that puts other animals on a par with us- because they also suffer. It maybe gives us a negative value even- as being destructive more than constructive- because of the amount of damage we've done to our cohabitants of this planet.
 
NormallyNeurotic

NormallyNeurotic

Everything is going to be okay ⋅ he/him
Nov 21, 2024
799
Realizing that I didn't actually expand on my stance, oops.

I'm religous (Jewish), and I think we are insignificant all things considered.

As people have argued, we have destroyed entire species, are in the process of destroying an entire planet, etc, so on that fron we are significant... but are we? Philosophically, I mean.

In a way, many of us are are the oppressor of the flora and fauna around us (I say "many of us" because some indigenous people are essentially doing a net positive for the earth even now and that's important to acknowledge). Are oppressors always significant? Because over the years, some people have gone from oppressed to oppressor, oppressor to oppressed—and while some groups have arguably stayed on top, that is due to the colonizer-built structure of our society, not any sort of innate "significance."

I think humans all being equally insignificant is THE POINT. We are insignificant, but the damage we do is not. We are like a toddler with a gun in the scope of our planet. And not to mention that you said "the universe," which brings up the possibility (...probability) of other lifeforms beyond our planet. The very fact that it is taking us so long to go to space and discover life makes us insignificant from their perspective. Even just to bacteria somehow surviving on a planet, those cells might predate so much of our progress that we're basically a fetus in comparison.
 
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TAW122

Emissary of the right to die.
Aug 30, 2018
7,382
I selected "As insignificant (speaking as a non believer or unsure of there being a God)" since I don't believe that humanity existed very long, at least in the timeline of the existence of the universe (over 4 billion years old) whereas human history is maybe a few hundred thousands of years old, maybe a few million (3+ million) if counting our ancestors from earlier times. I am also an atheist since I don't believe there to be God(s) out there.
 
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DarkRange55

DarkRange55

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Oct 15, 2023
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Then do illuminate us with your own sparking insight

We long for your life-affirming perspective, O non-doomer registered user of a suicide forum
Importance is an evaluator-specific term.

We're probably already the third most important species in the ecosystem (after the most common phytoplankton and its main virus), and we're the only species that can save the planet from the sun. Humans are part of nature. While humans are trashing the environment more than I like at present, we are aware of it and some of us are working on it. And for comparison, photosynthetic microbes put a thousand times as much oxygen in the atmosphere as we have put in carbon dioxide, and oxygen is a lot more reactive. Furthermore, as the sun gets hotter, it will cook the earth, and humanity is the only species that can save it. We need to move the earth 10 meters further from the sun every year to make up for the sun getting brighter. What other species is going to move the earth?

As for impactful events in the history of this universe, the Big Bang would certainly be top of the list (if that's the way it started), and life would be on the list as well. I think that development of electronic intelligence will be of equal impact in the history of the earth, and that its development on some planets will be among the most impactful in the history of this universe. And since machine intelligence depends upon biological intelligence to kickstart it, biological intelligence is also significant.

Whether life has meaning is somewhat independent of whether it is important on a cosmic scale, and if machine intelligence only arises from biological intelligence, then biological intelligence will of that meeting even if it does not persist in the age of machine intelligence.

Things like meaning, purpose, value and art are human constructs that we arbitrarily ascribe to the world around us. Meaning and purpose are human generated ideas and concept to aide in our survival. In the absolute, necessity does not exist. We do not know if humans are alone in experiencing existential dread, and it might be an avoidance mechanism rather than a bug...
The evolutionary purpose in life is to procreate, as biological organisms on this planet, it is to propagate the species. The purpose of gene-based life is to pass on genes. If we didn't die, the purpose would be to duplicate genes.
(Some lucky and skillful bacteria don't die for many, many, many generations. In a sense, the first life form is still alive now, since there is a continuous chain of life from it to all current life. In another sense, it has changed enough to no longer be considered the same life form, but where do you draw the line?).

So if meaning is subjective and we choose our own, then:

Some people enjoy the search.
Some hermits find meaning in isolation.
Most find meaning in impact on people since this is evo-favored through helping kin.

So if we are the barometers of meaning, and things are given meaning by us, then the universe is not meaningless because we are part of the universe. Whether there is higher meaning than that, I do not know.
Didn't you know? They're not like us! They're a visitor
thank you 👍
Oh! Always a pleasure to entertain visitors by virtue of being a zoo animal in this transparent cell. How lovely to know lurkers come with usernames! Perhaps the bored visitors ought to join a murder forum for more gripping reading material. Or perhaps poke us with a stick, it works on occasion
I've been a pretty active user on this forum since October 2023 and have had a generally very warm and positive experience with the community as a whole. Occasionally there are just some negative people and I truly feel sorry for whatever anyone is going through. No need to get sarcastic or defensive. I'm sorry you feel so reactionary to something mundane especially without any context. I don't know yours or anyone else's situation. And I never claim to. If this isn't your first account and you normally visit the OffTopic or Politics&Philosophy section then without a doubt you have seen my posts over the years.
Also, you can be optimistic about the future of humanity or the world but not about yourself or your situation - in regards to your first comment.
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Captive_Mind515

Captive_Mind515

King or street sweeper, dance with grim reaper!
Jul 18, 2023
675
Also, you can be optimistic about the future of humanity or the world but not about yourself or your situation - in regards to your first comment.
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Sounds like the typical delusional optimism we get from the pro-life majority. (Some of us find that rhetoric quite yawn inducing too btw)

I don't even see it as pessimistic, to admit that our lives have no objective purpose and we are literally all doomed. Born into a pointless losing struggle, that for some people is a lot worse than others. But for everyone, it's still pretty much hopeless. And the optimism that the majority live with, is essentially just a bunch of deluded coping mechanisms and fantasy bs that we are fed from cradle to grave to make our existence feel more bearable. I just see that as pointing out easily observable truths, not necessarily doomer pessimism. But people are so conditioned to being fed a diet of toxic positive nonsense all their life, anything that deviates from this script looks like doom and gloom, when in reality it can just be the brutal truth.

Even just the idea of being optimistic about the future of humanity, when most of these visions of the future (if they materialise at all) will happen when we are all long dead and gone and worm food in the ground. I find it quite a bizarre fantasy game that many people play in their head, being excited about some utopia that they themselves likely won't get to experience. I'm completely on board with making the world a better place for future generations, if our species does survive (which is far from guaranteed)... but being exciting about that future I find quite odd. All we're essentially doing is making the cage we live in a bit less shit/more entertaining... because being a sentient conscious living being that can suffer and has no purpose, is a type of cage. And it always will be, as far as I'm concerned.

I actually do find life interesting, but I still don't consider it a worthwhile endeavour. I consider it to be a fundamentally broken and deeply flawed game, that we should not be promoting as being a positive. I think that is the divergence we often see in society, as some people consider this life very valuable and worth preserving based on it being interesting/fascinating to them. But they manage to either block out all of the horrible elements, dimmish them in significance in their mind or even delude themselves into thinking that everything can be fixed at some point in the future. But you also just get quite a lot of selfish people in society, who love this life because they got dealt and okay hand and don't really care about the lack of equitable outcomes for other people. (even if they're good at faking empathy) It's all just a fun lottery to these people.
 
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DarkRange55

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Sounds like the typical delusional optimism we get from the pro-life majority. (Some of us find that rhetoric quite yawn inducing too btw)

I don't even see it as pessimistic, to admit that our lives have no objective purpose and we are literally all doomed. Born into a pointless losing struggle, that for some people is a lot worse than others. But for everyone, it's still pretty much hopeless. And the optimism that the majority live with, is essentially just a bunch of deluded coping mechanisms and fantasy bs that we are fed from cradle to grave to make our existence feel more bearable. I just see that as pointing out easily observable truths, not necessarily doomer pessimism. But people are so conditioned to being fed a diet of toxic positive nonsense all their life, anything that deviates from this script looks like doom and gloom, when in reality it can just be the brutal truth.

Even just the idea of being optimistic about the future of humanity, when most of these visions of the future (if they materialise at all) will happen when we are all long dead and gone and worm food in the ground. I find it quite a bizarre fantasy game that many people play in their head, being excited about some utopia that they themselves likely won't get to experience. I'm completely on board with making the world a better place for future generations, if our species does survive (which is far from guaranteed)... but being exciting about that future I find quite odd. All we're essentially doing is making the cage we live in a bit less shit/more entertaining... because being a sentient conscious living being that can suffer and has no purpose, is a type of cage. And it always will be, as far as I'm concerned.

I actually do find life interesting, but I still don't consider it a worthwhile endeavour. I consider it to be a fundamentally broken and deeply flawed game, that we should not be promoting as being a positive. I think that is the divergence we often see in society, as some people consider this life very valuable and worth preserving based on it being interesting/fascinating to them. But they manage to either block out all of the horrible elements, dimmish them in significance in their mind or even delude themselves into thinking that everything can be fixed at some point in the future. But you also just get quite a lot of selfish people in society, who love this life because they got dealt and okay hand and don't really care about the lack of equitable outcomes for other people. (even if they're good at faking empathy) It's all just a fun lottery to these people.
I'm sorry you have such a negative outlook. Like I said, we create our own meaning in life. I've had enough of these conversations on here over the years so I'm not going to fane the interest at this point. But like I said, I've been pretty warmly embraced by this community as a whole for a couple years now. I'm not sure what your deal is but I do feel sorry for you. I find personal meaning in my life and enjoyment. I strive to make 80% of my life heaven on earth. And I have a little niece and nephew so I do want to help build towards a better future.
You could even choose none or nothing as your meaning, if you wanted to. If you're a nihilist. But thats not very logically useful or beneficial.

Sigmund Freud in his book Civilization and its Discontents, in the second chapter he says, what is the purpose of life? He said, this is a question thats been asked without end by millions of people. By great philosophers. And he said, it seems nobody has an answer. Because maybe there is no answer. But he said, as for the behavior of men and woman, we can ascertain that they seek pleasure and avoid pain or simply they seek happiness. But I have a more nuanced answer. I've thought a lot about this. I would say the purpose of life is love, but not Hollywood love, not what everybody talks about. I even hate to say the word love. Its actually the words social life. And I'm not talking about the purpose of life after death. Thats not something I know much about. But as to the purpose of life on earth, I'd say its social/love. Love breaks into three subsets. Friends, family, romance. I would say, as a practical matter, the purpose of life is friends, family, romance. Which you can call that love, there's three types of love in old Greek or Latin. There's agape, eros and phileo in life. Agape is like family love, unconditional love you have for your kids. Phileo is like the friendship love. It's like the saying there's no greater love than you would lay down your life. I'd lay down my life, I think, for some of my friends. And then you have eros. Thats where the word erotic comes from. Thats romance, thats sexual love. Thats what makes the world go round. I would say the purpose on life, a simpler version is social or love. I would slightly disagree with Sigmund Freud if I may, even though I consider him such an underrated person. So many people in the modern world - oh, didn't he say the id, the super ego hasn't this guy's methodologies and hypotheses been disproven? Yeah, that was in late 1800's, early 1900's. But I don't think I've read anyone at some level more genius than what he wrote. The simplicity that he laid out super complex subjects. But if you think about this, happiness, he said, it seems by the behavior of humans that we seek happiness. We may seek it, but it doesn't mean its the purpose. Happiness is the fuel that allows you to get out of bed. But ultimately, humans are social creatures. There's a great book by Matt Lieberman, former Harvard, now he's at UCLA, a neuroscientist, and he has all this advanced research he's done with FMRI machines, where you study the brain function. It's all social. We dream about social situations. Our fears are social, our ambitions are social, our appetites are rooted in social. So if you read that book Social by Matt Lieberman, everything is social. So the purpose of life at an FMRI level functional magnetic resonance imaging machine. When you study the brain, no matter what people say, the scans don't lie. We think in social terms, we live in social terms. The great Greek billionaire Onassis who married JFK's widow. He said all the money in the world doesn't matter if there wasn't women. That was his take on it.

The ability to repress is a valuable survival tool. And reframing. Maybe the good just outweighs the bad in my life personally. If you study things like Ontology and complex psychology and metaphysics they talk about the story we tell ourself. So their big thing is we can manipulate our own mind and reframe it into whatever story we want. Failure can be a creation of new wisdom, endings can be new beginnings, mistakes can be discoveries. Thomas Edison was awarded over 1,000 patients. But most of his ideas failed initially. But he manipulated how he perceived his failures by saying, "I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work." Colonel Sanders who started KFC said he knocked on almost exactly 1,000 doors before somebody invested in his restaurant. So he was able to see these closed doors as opportunities to find someone else. At the end of the day life becomes some kind of imagination that we make up. Conflicts become growth opportunities and ex's become teachers. If you study evolutionary psychology the human mind was not designed for happiness. It was designed for reproduction, that's evolution that's why we get in bad relationships but stay in them. Because our subconscious our animal, lizard, reptilian mind is interested in something else beyond our conscious happiness. So I'm a big believer in the concept that happiness is something we create. One thing that all these top billionaires seem to have in common is the ability to make a mistake and then somehow manipulate their mind that, that mistake doesn't effect them. I read Sam Walton's book and he says in the first chapter the first store that he opened he didn't pay attention and lease that he signed after two years basically he lost all control of the building. So he grew this business, it wasn't Walmart at that point it was some discount store, he built up this big business and then the person that owned the building took it away from him after two years. And he said at first it kind of messed with his brain. But he said he had this unique ability to just see it as a learning experience. Remember in the future to always read the legal lease contracts before he moves into a new building and he just moved on. Most people, the average person in the world cannot handle failure. There's a good book The E Myth Revisited by Michael Gerber and I remember he talks about the statistic in the world the average person about 70% of people quit after one failure. Then another 20% quit on the second failure and like 90-95% of people have quit after three years. But the average millionaire has failed three times before they hit on their big thing. The reason the US is more advanced entrepreneurially is necessarily because we're smarter but because he have a system that allows you to fail. I was talking to my friend and he said entrepreneur you're almost supposed to fail. It's like a badge of honor to say I had this company and it crashed. Like Sam Walton, he had this first store, he built it up. someone took it away from me and then I came out bigger and stronger. It's pretty much all about building the ability to take events that happen to humans and reframe them into some other story that you tell yourself. And one of my favorite sayings it's very simple it says: "Who is mighty? He who has control over his own mind."

Anyway, I'm not going to get into this any further. but I will leave you with this: Call it delusional if you want. I recognize the absurdity of life and just laugh or shrug. And I simply say, so what? I recognize it. I'm okay with it. Just like the passage of time. I'm okay with it. I just choose to do something with the life and time I've been given. Which one of us is happier? I also don't think life is miserable without finding meaning. And regardless, I just do what I want to do with my life. Also I never argued with the right to ctb. That remains an individuals choice, as I have always said. I don't know why you feel so disenfranchised or why you think others can't be genuinely happy. Yes, I was blessed in life and won the genetic lottery. But we all have problems and suffering. Granted, some are, I hate this word but "luckier" than others. I do personally truly feel blessed and thankful for my life. And I love sharing happiness and I love life. I love my family, my friends, my girlfriend, my work, my hobbies, I'm blessed with great health. I love the rush of adrenaline I get from driving my 1,000 horsepower model S Tesla Plaid. I love the thrill of being with a women. I love dancing, I love golf, I love laughing. I love where I live and I love traveling. But that is me. Others are not as fortunate and I recognize that. That is why I am grateful and appreciative and thankful for all my blessings in life. I don't want to ctb. But I support the right to choose. I have my readons for being here. And the overwhelming majority over the years appreciate my presence. 🙄 Maybe its just sour grapes? 🍇 At any rate, I wish you peace in life. ✌️


 
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