Do you replay old conversations or incidents in your mind?

[noname223]

I do this a lot. Especially, if they were embarrassing or when criticism was involved.

I think it is caused by autism and psychosis my overanalyzing of social interactions.

In my self-help group a woman with BPD told a story. After a conversation with someone ten years ago she thought the person hated her since. She met that person again after ten years and it turned out it was all a misunderstanding. She actually likes her.

I have this issue with the quantum physics professor that literally haunts my brain. I also came to the conclusion he truely hated me. I met him a year after we met us in during that clinic stay and he was really puzzled when I acted like he hated me. I think he was too stunned about my behavior/cognitive distortion to point out the misunderstanding.

I think analyzing social interactions that happened several years ago are affected by so many cognitive biases. Most often the other person already forgot it and only oneself interprets way too much into the interaction. Maybe the past situation triggered something in me. It most likely has. And this is why I cannot forget it and read too much into it. For the other person it was rather random and void. Nothing to ruminate several years about.

 

[HopeNotLong]

one of the reasons I hate my mind...

 

[not-2-b-the-answer]

All the time...

 

[westerly_merlin]

All the time, I can go back 50 years to things I said in primary school that I still cringe about.

 

[NoPoint2Life]

Definitely replay conversations a ton. Maybe not as much for incidents.
I also plan ahead for a lot of conversations. I drive myself nuts with what I might say and then I still get flustered anyway or if one thing isn't how I imagined it then I just wasted all that time anyway.

 

[FoxSauce]

All the fucking time even if i didnt ask

 

[amerie]

Yes

Sometimes I've remembered so much shit that I just wake up crying and with anxiety in my chest

I hate it

I can't just "get over" stuff

 

[Freedombus'25]

Yup yup. Especially during certain parts of the months its so natural hormonal based. IT FUCKING SUCKS

 

[katara]

Ya bc I feel bad about things I did wrong

 

[enough of this]

OMG, yes. I do that all the time. So much of it has to do with changing what I did, could have done or said, and imagining the outcome being better. Actually, I wish I could do almost everything over, starting with different primary care givers.

 

[princexhhn]

Yeah, it's like I'm incapable of moving on lol

 

[aria_of_a_dream]

Constantly. Wondering what you could have done differently or better. Wondering if choices were the right one. (they never are)

 

[MatiSendiri]

I do this a lot. Especially, if they were embarrassing or when criticism was involved.

I think it is caused by autism and psychosis my overanalyzing of social interactions.

In my self-help group a woman with BPD told a story. After a conversation with someone ten years ago she thought the person hated her since. She met that person again after ten years and it turned out it was all a misunderstanding. She actually likes her.

I have this issue with the quantum physics professor that literally haunts my brain. I also came to the conclusion he truely hated me. I met him a year after we met us in during that clinic stay and he was really puzzled when I acted like he hated me. I think he was too stunned about my behavior/cognitive distortion to point out the misunderstanding.

I think analyzing social interactions that happened several years ago are affected by so many cognitive biases. Most often the other person already forgot it and only oneself interprets way too much into the interaction. Maybe the past situation triggered something in me. It most likely has. And this is why I cannot forget it and read too much into it. For the other person it was rather random and void. Nothing to ruminate several years about.

One thing I have done is to daydream conversation. Just kinda imagine it to be the best of my condition. I do replay some of past conversation them in my mind, but I think daydreaming about the future definitely knocks the count of replays I have.

 

[Dejected 55]

Not everything that has ever happened to me... but certain things, I relive almost daily... other things almost every night... and some things on certain times when I'm triggered to remember.

 

[starinthesky]

I know some chats or conversations by heart, verbatim. I deeply regret how I treated people when I was at my lowest. They do play on repeat, especially when I'm reminded of how lonely I am. It makes me think it's better to be secluded, no matter how lonely I feel...

 

[tooBadTooLate]

Yeah. It sucks having to be reminded of traumatic stuff that I've been trying to forget.

 

[SpinosaurusKat]

Nothing to serious about it but i remember an old female friend i had every once in a while.
Has been years since we last talk but i did enjoyed it at the time (ngl i kinda liked her), as time went by we started to talk less and less
i do try to forget it but theres some good memories as well, so i just dont know how to react

 

[nobodycaresaboutme]

Always. I'm too sensitive to past mistakes and get flashbacks. My autism sucks.

 

[lament.]

Also autistic, and yes, constantly, most of the time it's just a small cringe thing or something minor that I regret but it stings so hard, sometimes I genuinely tell myself to shut the fuck up out-loud because I'm just repeating the same conversation and over-analysing how I could have responded better. It's one of the things I hate most about myself but I don't see it ever going away.

 

[amerie]

Also autistic, and yes, constantly, most of the time it's just a small cringe thing or something minor that I regret but it stings so hard, sometimes I genuinely tell myself to shut the fuck up out-loud because I'm just repeating the same conversation and over-analysing how I could have responded better. It's one of the things I hate most about myself but I don't see it ever going away.

BROOOO OMG SAME, my mom thinks I'm insane because my thoughts are so vivid that I have to scream and hit myself so they'll stop. It's so annoying.

 

[Pluto]

 

[_Gollum_]

Nope. One of the only times I'm grateful for my god-awful memory! Can't replay memories if you can't even remember them *guy tapping head meme*

 

[dweller]

yes
i am constantly feeling humiliated

 

[MyShadow]

There's one situation that I replay in the my head frequently. I tried to do the right thing and it blew up in my face, and cost me everything. It was a double-edged sword. I lost so much but also dodged a bullet.

A year later, I still have nightmares about it and doubt that I will ever recover because the whole situation has scarred me emotionally and destroyed my ability to trust anyone and it reinforced my choice to avoid active alcoholics and addicts.

One of the lessons I learned is that alcoholics and addicts are dangerous and selfish. Unless they choose to get help and change their ways, they remain determined to destroy anyone and everything who stand in the way of their self-destructive choices.