Do people tell you to smile? How does it make you feel?

[not_a_robot]

Curious how people here experience the problem of being expected to smile all the time. Do people ever command you to smile? Are you good at it? Does it make you feel better or worse?

 

[inconsequential]

I have a forced sunny disposition, so I don't have this issue as much as I did pre-lying to the entire world.

However, before this shit, I hated it. As I would hate it if someone told me to smile more now. My emotions are not a plaything for others, and they shouldn't dictate how others feel, if that's any of their issue.

 

[been_there]

Curious how people here experience the problem of being expected to smile all the time. Do people ever command you to smile? Are you good at it? Does it make you feel better or worse?

Apologies if I've misread you, but from your posts I can't imagine you giving a shit about smiling for others.

 

[DoomedxFromBirth]

Someone at work said I was too pretty not to smile and then proceeded to show me their arm which was full of old cuts. I understood what they were trying to say maybe that life was too short or whatever. I said it didnt work that way for some people. I commended them for no longer cutting. I didnt want to go into detail with how I felt or what I was going through. This person pops up constantly always trying to give me positive words that bounce off me.

Throughout my life I've been told that a lot "you're too pretty not to smile" what the hell does that mean. How you look has nothing to do with smiling. Most of the time Im not smiling. Its very rare.

 

[been_there]

Society expects you to do lots of things all the time, doesn't mean you have to listen to them.

(disclaimer : all advice from this subject can be mood driven, unwise and/or facetious, depending on day of posting.)

 

[WinterIsComing]

In my house my grandmother forget me to not make make a gran or angry face, she will say "don't do that", also one of my aunts said it close to my face like a rabid dog.

 

[Empty Smile]

Here's my skippity smile for people who tell me to smile....


Edit: the one I wanted to load won't load, so this ia what you're stuck with!

 

[not_a_robot]

I have a forced sunny disposition, so I don't have this issue as much as I did pre-lying to the entire world.

However, before this shit, I hated it. As I would hate it if someone told me to smile more now. My emotions are not a plaything for others, and they shouldn't dictate how others feel, if that's any of their issue.

My cope is weed. Makes it easy to walk around grinning and talking in cheery voice even though I'm secretly wishing everyone else on the planet would just disappear.
Without weed, it's
"My face isn't here for your fucking amusement."

 

[Severen]

I don't like people talking to me like I'm their pet dog so my natural response is a desire to strangle these people to death. Of course, I don't. But smiling does help me feel better. And it does the same for many other people, as well.

 

[inconsequential]

My cope is weed. Makes it easy to walk around grinning and talking in cheery voice even though I'm secretly wishing everyone else on the planet would just disappear.
Without weed, it's
"My face isn't here for your fucking amusement."

I haven't been sober in 15 years.

 

[Severen]

I haven't been sober in 15 years.

Well you haven't missed out on much... Humanity became more dumbed than ever before. Cost of living is higher than ever. A lot of people have been killing each other in certain parts of the world over stupid reasons. Music has gotten much worse. The Earth has become more polluted. And technology has improved, slightly. Some good TV shows and video games have come out. And many Americans are turning into Nazis.

 

[been_there]

Look what you coulda had.

 

[GinaIsReady]

Throughout my life I've been told that a lot "you're too pretty not to smile" what the hell does that mean. How you look has nothing to do with smiling. Most of the time Im not smiling. Its very rare.

I hate when people judge.

 

[DoomedxFromBirth]

Yeah, like I dont remember asking youuu

 

[GinaIsReady]

Yeah, like I dont remember asking youuu

just more assholes

 

[Bulletwbttrflywings]

Curious how people here experience the problem of being expected to smile all the time. Do people ever command you to smile? Are you good at it? Does it make you feel better or worse?

My parents cultivated that insane thinking within me since a very early age because I looked so fucking "miserable" all the time. (Truth be told - I was a miserable little fuck) Now, it's all I know in the public eye. And I don't go out that much because it takes too much work to be fake. Fuck it. Honestly. So yea, it makes it worse. Having to be "perfect" all the time takes a toll. I'm just trying to make it to the next minute most times... fuck you if you feel the need for a smile from me. You selfish fucks.

So I guess that leads to more lonely times? Fuck it. I now don't feel so alone... thanks to you guys. Thanks for letting me be me... and thanks for being you.

 

[LongTimeComing]

I'm one of those people that smiles at everyone, even when I'm hurting; you know, that whole "the prettiest smiles hide the deepest secrets" stuff. It gives the illusion I'm fine, but I have no problem doing it, I get smiles in return and it's easy for me.

 

[Morphinekiss]

I never leave the house so I never have to smile. Problem solved.

 

[not_a_robot]

Yeah, like I dont remember asking youuu

As a female,you are meant to be so stupid and shallow that any mention of the words "pretty" or "popular" is supposed to make you immediately snap your behavior in line with whatever the people around you want from you.
Did you not get the memo?

For me it's always "But you're so pretty when you smile."
Holy fuck, I am 45 years old, not 5.

 

[Severen]

My parents cultivated that insane thinking within me since a very early age because I looked so fucking "miserable" all the time. (Truth be told - I was a miserable little fuck) Now, it's all I know in the public eye. And I don't go out that much because it takes too much work to be fake. Fuck it. Honestly. So yea, it makes it worse. Having to be "perfect" all the time takes a toll. I'm just trying to make it to the next minute most times... fuck you if you feel the need for a smile from me. You selfish fucks.

So I guess that leads to more lonely times? Fuck it. I now don't feel so alone... thanks to you guys. Thanks for letting me be me... and thanks for being you.

Hahahaha, I would pay money to see your parents spend time in Germany. They would be freaking out 24/7. In Germany, it is not socially acceptable to smile too much. If you do so, people will think you are insane. LOL "People will be thinking, why the fuck is that person smiling all the time. Maybe he or she is retarded." Then they will avoid you... So yeah...they will be somewhere with nobody smiling...

 

[been_there]

 

[Bulletwbttrflywings]

Hahahaha, I would pay money to see your parents spend time in Germany. They would be freaking out 24/7. In Germany, it is not socially acceptable to smile too much. If you do so, people will think you are insane. LOL "People will be thinking, why the fuck is that person smiling all the time. Maybe he or she is retarded." Then they will avoid you... So yeah...they will be somewhere with nobody smiling...

Haha! The fucked Up part is my dad has German heritage...

Now that I know, maybe I should place my roots in Germany and finally be happy being "miserable"

 

[Severen]

Haha! The fucked Up part is my dad has German heritage...

Now that I know, maybe I should place my roots in Germany and finally be happy being "miserable"

LOL that is ironic. But the Germans who moved to America, had to adapt to American culture otherwise everyone would hate them.

 

[Bulletwbttrflywings]

LOL that is ironic. But the Germans who moved to America, had to adapt to American culture otherwise everyone would hate them.

But he was raised in a hard east coast city and my mom is Asian so emotional shit shouldn't be a topic...

Can't win either way man, I'm telling ya!

 

[WinterIsComing]

Hahahaha, I would pay money to see your parents spend time in Germany. They would be freaking out 24/7. In Germany, it is not socially acceptable to smile too much. If you do so, people will think you are insane. LOL "People will be thinking, why the fuck is that person smiling all the time. Maybe he or she is retarded." Then they will avoid you... So yeah...they will be somewhere with nobody smiling...

Seems like Germany is paradise

 

[ExitTheDay]

The only time I ever like to smile is when I'm walking past strangers on the street when they give me eye contact, other than that when people say "Fake it to make it" it all seems to far-fetched and glorified that i'm suppose to just get over the problems I am facing and fake a smile while I'm pretending to be hunky fucking dory

 

[Severen]

Seems like Germany is paradise

It's a good country to live in. But it's not for everyone. Some people would not be able to adapt to the culture there, I think for various reasons.

But he was raised in a hard east coast city and my mom is Asian so emotional shit shouldn't be a topic...

Can't win either way man, I'm telling ya!

Strange. Maybe it could be your mother's influence on him.

 

[262653]

People don't tell me to smile because I do it compulsively since childhood :)

 

[Bagger]

Nobody wants me to smile or ask why i don't smile. But i imagine it'll mean nothing for me. Or maybe i'll just freak out and go away asap. Luckily, in my country almost nobody smiles to you on the street, so i don't need to too.

 

[blanketyblk]

I work in retail, so always being told to simile by the managers, and while i do it. it's always a fake smile. i simply just hate doing it. it's soo phony
If i was the one being served i would rather be served by someone not smiling, instead of someone you can obliviously tell is putting on a fake smile.

Even growing up I never really smiled much and my parents always told me to smile and say "look at it this way. your a live. so at least smile at that". lol