Venting Brother is being bullied

[hoppybunny]

I'm not gonna share all the details but my baby brother is being harassed and my parents decided it was his fault.

They were clearly upset and were angry and yelled at the kids bullying him but after they heard what happened. In fact while he was crying they started saying it was his fault.

They were like he's too soft, and he acts like a kid. And pointing out all the things "wrong" with him.

They were saying he needs to toughen up cause he's a man and soft, nice kids get bullied and the world doesn't tolerate soft people.

And I just felt bad for him. Like he's literally in tears and you're telling him it's his fault.

This is why people kill themselves. When I tried defending him and telling them the kids in his grade are especially mean they were like "you weren't there how would you know?" But like they weren't there either yet they're convinced it's his fault he's being bullies.

Like because he's a nice boy that loves to make people smile. He doesn't curse and he enjoys age appropriate content he's askinf to be bullied?!? That's not fair. This is why people kill themselves. They were talking about his hair, and how he doesn't wipe his nose on time or trash his tissues properly even though he literally has a nasal infection cause by a nanny when he was a baby.

Like he can barely breathe and they're telling him if he closed his mouth when he was breathing he wouldn't be such an easy target!

This is why people kill themselves. The kind people are harassed and instead of punishing the harassers the victims are told to not be easy targets and change themselves.

He's not hurting anyone by being kind and childish why does he have to change.

 

[Faxanadu]

I'm sorry for your brother, I learned the hard way how it works for bullies and parents.
I would suggest to make him learn a discipline of self-defense, like Aikido.
That way he could keep being himself instead of turning into just another rabid person, he would learn a useful discipline for himself and his loved ones - being able to defend his girlfirend one day! - and make new friends during the courses.
If you are in a position to help him learning self defense, please do it, you'll save his life.

 

[agony1996]

I'm not gonna share all the details but my baby brother is being harassed and my parents decided it was his fault.

They were clearly upset and were angry and yelled at the kids bullying him but after they heard what happened. In fact while he was crying they started saying it was his fault.

They were like he's too soft, and he acts like a kid. And pointing out all the things "wrong" with him.

They were saying he needs to toughen up cause he's a man and soft, nice kids get bullied and the world doesn't tolerate soft people.

And I just felt bad for him. Like he's literally in tears and you're telling him it's his fault.

This is why people kill themselves. When I tried defending him and telling them the kids in his grade are especially mean they were like "you weren't there how would you know?" But like they weren't there either yet they're convinced it's his fault he's being bullies.

Like because he's a nice boy that loves to make people smile. He doesn't curse and he enjoys age appropriate content he's askinf to be bullied?!? That's not fair. This is why people kill themselves. They were talking about his hair, and how he doesn't wipe his nose on time or trash his tissues properly even though he literally has a nasal infection cause by a nanny when he was a baby.

Like he can barely breathe and they're telling him if he closed his mouth when he was breathing he wouldn't be such an easy target!

This is why people kill themselves. The kind people are harassed and instead of punishing the harassers the victims are told to not be easy targets and change themselves.

He's not hurting anyone by being kind and childish why does he have to change.

I'm so sorry it's absolutely heartbreaking,
My heart goes out to him and it truly angers me how the bullies target good hearted people that don't cause any issues, that's so wrong.
Maybe your parents don't know the impact that bullying had on kids?
I don't know if they would listen to you but maybe if you explained it to them they would understand and go speak with the school principal to make sure he's aware of it.
Again im so sorry I feel for you and your brother, it's so wrong

 

[Michael_the_ratman]

I'm not gonna share all the details but my baby brother is being harassed and my parents decided it was his fault.

They were clearly upset and were angry and yelled at the kids bullying him but after they heard what happened. In fact while he was crying they started saying it was his fault.

They were like he's too soft, and he acts like a kid. And pointing out all the things "wrong" with him.

They were saying he needs to toughen up cause he's a man and soft, nice kids get bullied and the world doesn't tolerate soft people.

And I just felt bad for him. Like he's literally in tears and you're telling him it's his fault.

This is why people kill themselves. When I tried defending him and telling them the kids in his grade are especially mean they were like "you weren't there how would you know?" But like they weren't there either yet they're convinced it's his fault he's being bullies.

Like because he's a nice boy that loves to make people smile. He doesn't curse and he enjoys age appropriate content he's askinf to be bullied?!? That's not fair. This is why people kill themselves. They were talking about his hair, and how he doesn't wipe his nose on time or trash his tissues properly even though he literally has a nasal infection cause by a nanny when he was a baby.

Like he can barely breathe and they're telling him if he closed his mouth when he was breathing he wouldn't be such an easy target!

This is why people kill themselves. The kind people are harassed and instead of punishing the harassers the victims are told to not be easy targets and change themselves.

He's not hurting anyone by being kind and childish why does he have to change.

I'm so sorry for your brother.

I think your parents are so wrong for telling them it's his fault. He's gonna grow up thinking something is wrong with him when in reality no… I've been a victim of bullying and the best thing you can do (imo) for him is to distract him from it. Take him to to park, play with him… you can promise to always be there for him, always support him, never judge him and just be like a "friend". Most importantly tell him that bullying isn't his fault, because it's not. I'm so sorry, I feel bad for the poor dude ):

 

[fallingtopieces]

Your parents response is truly saddening, he is lucky to have u. Some people just feel more, they can't just turn it off or 'toughen up'.

 

[Morte]

These are the types of parents I love to see rotting in an asylum and they will still call their children ungrateful for abandoning them.

 

[voc_89]

that is very unfortunate. My only advise is that you try to continue to be in his corner. We all know that we have that 1 person who keeps us from CTB. That person that helps us forget or well mitigate the pain that is life. From how it seems u are definitely that person for him. So the best you can do is try to keep supporting him.

 

[hoppybunny]

I'm sorry for your brother, I learned the hard way how it works for bullies and parents.
I would suggest to make him learn a discipline of self-defense, like Aikido.
That way he could keep being himself instead of turning into just another rabid person, he would learn a useful discipline for himself and his loved ones - being able to defend his girlfirend one day! - and make new friends during the courses.
If you are in a position to help him learning self defense, please do it, you'll save his life.

I was considering aikido as well. He wants to do wrestling to get stronger but I told him it's not practical. So hopefully we can get him in boxing or aikido. Aikido preferably cause I don't want him to be violent.

I'm so sorry it's absolutely heartbreaking,
My heart goes out to him and it truly angers me how the bullies target good hearted people that don't cause any issues, that's so wrong.
Maybe your parents don't know the impact that bullying had on kids?
I don't know if they would listen to you but maybe if you explained it to them they would understand and go speak with the school principal to make sure he's aware of it.
Again im so sorry I feel for you and your brother, it's so wrong

Thankfully they're going to have a meeting with the school and the kids parents. But no they won't listen. I tried to explain but they're firm believers in conforming to society vs being yourself.

I'm so sorry for your brother.

I think your parents are so wrong for telling them it's his fault. He's gonna grow up thinking something is wrong with him when in reality no… I've been a victim of bullying and the best thing you can do (imo) for him is to distract him from it. Take him to to park, play with him… you can promise to always be there for him, always support him, never judge him and just be like a "friend". Most importantly tell him that bullying isn't his fault, because it's not. I'm so sorry, I feel bad for the poor dude ):

Thank you. I made sure to tell him that and comfort him. I'll be sure to spoil him lots when I get a job

Your parents response is truly saddening, he is lucky to have u. Some people just feel more, they can't just turn it off or 'toughen up'.

Thank you. He is such a sweet boy and I'm so scared the world will take away his kindness. He's already saying things like how kind people are doomed and he should stop being a good person so I'm worried.

These are the types of parents I love to see rotting in an asylum and they will still call their children ungrateful for abandoning them.

Their response was really unfortunate cause like they're saying it with good intentions cause In their head conforming to society gives you the best life. They did get upset and defend him at least. I just wish they didn't say all that stuff to him.

They're pretty self centered I won't lie. They think their way of life is the only way to live which sucks.

I love my parents but they're a handful

These are the types of parents I love to see rotting in an asylum and they will still call their children ungrateful for abandoning them.

Their response was really unfortunate cause like they're saying it with good intentions cause In their head conforming to society gives you the best life. They did get upset and defend him at least. I just wish they didn't say all that stuff to him.

They're pretty self centered I won't lie. They think their way of life is the only way to live which sucks.

I love my parents but they're a handful

no not aikido, thats worthless and will embarrass him. get him into kickboxing, boxing or wrestling

Aikido is honestly really nice but I agree that boxing or kickboxing or most likely Krav Maga will be best. Wrestling tho kinda sucks imo cause I believe you should avoid contact as much as possible when fighting for self defense. Ans bjj and wrestling involve touching too much imo.

no not aikido, thats worthless and will embarrass him. get him into kickboxing, boxing or wrestling

Aikido is honestly really nice but I agree that boxing or kickboxing or most likely Krav Maga will be best. Wrestling tho kinda sucks imo cause I believe you should avoid contact as much as possible when fighting for self defense. Ans bjj and wrestling involve touching too much imo.

that is very unfortunate. My only advise is that you try to continue to be in his corner. We all know that we have that 1 person who keeps us from CTB. That person that helps us forget or well mitigate the pain that is life. From how it seems u are definitely that person for him. So the best you can do is try to keep supporting him.

Thank you. I'll do my best for him.

 

[Last dance]

Buy a gun and shoot the bastards

 

[hellworldprincess]

I'm sorry for your brother, I learned the hard way how it works for bullies and parents.
I would suggest to make him learn a discipline of self-defense, like Aikido.
That way he could keep being himself instead of turning into just another rabid person, he would learn a useful discipline for himself and his loved ones - being able to defend his girlfirend one day! - and make new friends during the courses.
If you are in a position to help him learning self defense, please do it, you'll save his life.

I'm not saying that there's no use for martial arts like aikido, but I personally was excluded and called names in my aikido class just like in any other setting.
It didn't help me get more resilient, nor did it ever help me defend myself.
If you get your sibling into an aikido class, you have to watch out for them. The kids in there are going to be just as likely to bully your sibling as they are in any other setting.
I wish all the strength in the world upon the both of you

 

[hoppybunny]

I'm not saying that there's no use for martial arts like aikido, but I personally was excluded and called names in my aikido class just like in any other setting.
It didn't help me get more resilient, nor did it ever help me defend myself.
If you get your sibling into an aikido class, you have to watch out for them. The kids in there are going to be just as likely to bully your sibling as they are in any other setting.
I wish all the strength in the world upon the both of you

Thank you so much! I'll keep a good eye on him.

Buy a gun and shoot the bastards

Thought about it. I won't lie

 

[FuneralCry]

That is really so cruel, it's so terrible how many suffer like that all through no fault of their own. But anyway I wish you all the best.

 

[hoppybunny]

That is really so cruel, it's so terrible how many suffer like that all through no fault of their own. But anyway I wish you all the best.

Thank you. Hopefully they'll deal with the kids this Monday. So my baby brother can be in peace