Venting Being short

[PI3.14]

Being 5'5 guy has literally destroyed my health, career, and my social life. I'm late twenties virgin.

I don't know if want to continue living anymore. What is the point if living if I'm looked at as an inferior to average and tall guys. I can't afford the limb lengthening. My parents can, but they think it's stupid and will never pay for it.

I guess I can just die and be done with all of this. It angers me that I'm the creation of my parents and my height is due to their genes and despite knowing this and having the money for the surgery, they still won't pay for it.

 

[makebelieve]

It's over

 

[PI3.14]

It's over

It never began for me.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

How has being short destroyed your health, career, and social life? I've seen plenty of short guys with great careers, health, and social lives before, so I don't get how your height ruined your life...

I'm not saying this to be rude, btw. I'm genuinely confused.

 

[PI3.14]

How has being short destroyed your health, career, and social life? I've seen plenty of short guys with great careers, health, and social lives before, so I don't get how your height ruined your life...

I'm not saying this to be rude, btw. I'm genuinely confused.

It caused me severe depression and anxiety (diagnosed by a psychiatrist).

The feeling you are not desired as a 5'5 hurts like nothing else. All the advice I see on the internet are nothing but cope.

 

[memoriesofyesterday]

Being 5'5 guy has literally destroyed my health, career, and my social life. I'm late twenties virgin.

I don't know if want to continue living anymore. What is the point if living if I'm looked at as an inferior to average and tall guys. I can't afford the limb lengthening. My parents can, but they think it's stupid and will never pay for it.

I guess I can just die and be done with all of this. It angers me that I'm the creation of my parents and my height is due to their genes and despite knowing this and having the money for the surgery, they still won't pay for it.

I've never heard of limb lengthening.

I'm so sorry. This isn't going to help you much but Bono is 5'6, Michael J. Fox is 5'4, Prince was only 5'2 and James Madison became President of the United States at 5'4.

I can top you, I'm in my 40's and still a virgin.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

It caused me severe depression and anxiety (diagnosed by a psychiatrist).

The feeling you are not desired as a 5'5 hurts like nothing else. All the advice I see on the internet are nothing but cope.

So it's the depression caused by your height that are causing these issues?

 

[disjectamembra]

im sorry you feel this way. i get being miserable bcus of feeling like youre not desirable enough

 

[PI3.14]

So it's the depression caused by your height that are causing these issues?

Yes. I take medicine for it. I see both a psychiatrist(to adjust doses or to change meds) and I have been also seeing therapist. The therapist though is useless but I keep going just for venting. CBT model is useless when your beliefs are actually supported by studies and are not just some mental distortions.

 

[JR_Timm]

Its not important look at Danny DeVito.

 

[PI3.14]

Its not important look at Danny DeVito.

He is from a different generation. No online dating back then that allows you to filter by height and that floods women with infinite men to pick and choose from.

Plus, exceptions never define the rule.

 

[Ganymede]

It's crazy how people will tell you that it's all about self esteem when genetics literally determine your entire life. A short guy would always look better if he was taller and that's a fact.

 

[PI3.14]

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It's crazy how people will tell you that it's all about self esteem when genetics literally determine your entire life. A short guy would always look better if he was taller and that's a fact.

tell me about it. Looks matter after all but people don't like to admit it.

 

[pyx]

brutal. worse when people evince their disapproval through the reaction system.

 

[soonatpeace777888]

Height is so weird a thing for humans to be fixated on. Its really proof that we never really transcended our primal origins.

 

[PI3.14]

Height is so weird a thing for humans to be fixated on. Its really proof that we never really transcended our primal origins.

I studied some animals behavior back in college. Once you start seeing how we behave exactly like other animals, it becomes difficult to unsee it.

 

[amnesia999]

I don't mean to be rude, but it feels like I'm being trolled here. Have you tried wearing shoes that increase your height? There's a huge variety of elevator shoes on sale at Amazon.

 

[hadenough58]

Being 5'5 guy has literally destroyed my health, career, and my social life. I'm late twenties virgin.

I don't know if want to continue living anymore. What is the point if living if I'm looked at as an inferior to average and tall guys. I can't afford the limb lengthening. My parents can, but they think it's stupid and will never pay for it.

I guess I can just die and be done with all of this. It angers me that I'm the creation of my parents and my height is due to their genes and despite knowing this and having the money for the surgery, they still won't pay for it.

I don't mean to trivialise your problem but while 5.5" is not the tallest it does not have to define you or your life, I am only 5.8" and had my share of GF both before and after my marriage.
I know plenty of guys your height with a GF and so I have to ask if you have other issues that you are ignoring while focusing on your height

 

[PI3.14]

I don't mean to be rude, but it feels like I'm being trolled here. Have you tried wearing shoes that increase your height? There's a huge variety of elevator shoes on sale at Amazon.

If you have female friends or relatives then ask then how would they feel about a guy wearing insoles.

That's a huge turn off for women. They might only tolerate it if they desire to wear high heels and still want to appear shorter next to you.

Also, eople will realize your height when you take them off, unless you're an extremely introverted guy with no friends.

I don't mean to trivialise your problem but while 5.5" is not the tallest it does not have to define you or your life, I am only 5.8" and had my share of GF both before and after my marriage.
I know plenty of guys your height with a GF and so I have to ask if you have other issues that you are ignoring while focusing on your height

5'8 will be dream for me. I do but it mostly height. I'm currently studying engineering to fix my career and I'm doing well in school.

My life is shit now but I expect it to get better after graduation and getting a job.

However, this doesn't affect my health that much when I compare it to the issue of my height.

 

[Dai]

Tom Holland is 5'6"

 

[Addled and Rattled]

I dated maybe three shorter men, one was even shorter than me (I'm 5'4".) The only thing that threw me off over time was the fixation they themselves had on their height or other perceived deficiencies. It sucked, because I would try to help but it was just never enough. They never came to peace with it even though they seemingly got what they wanted. One was really bad, but he also did not understand when he was being too abrasive or rude, which I think caused more issues than his height ever did.

There are people out there who genuinely don't care. Finding them is easier said than done, I know. You're right that online dating sucks, which is why I used to try meeting people in person. Speed dating, going to maker spaces, extracurriculars, etc. My ex of 5 years joined a maker space and found a girlfriend probably 2 weeks into it.

You're still worthy of love, although I get that it's harder as a short guy. It doesn't define you, and there's other qualities to look for in a person. Appearance does matter, so try to take care of yourself. <3

 

[PI3.14]

I dated maybe three shorter men, one was even shorter than me (I'm 5'4".) The only thing that threw me off over time was the fixation they themselves had on their height or other perceived deficiencies. It sucked, because I would try to help but it was just never enough. They never came to peace with it even though they seemingly got what they wanted. One was really bad, but he also did not understand when he was being too abrasive or rude, which I think caused more issues than his height ever did.

There are people out there who genuinely don't care. Finding them is easier said than done, I know. You're right that online dating sucks, which is why I used to try meeting people in person. Speed dating, going to maker spaces, extracurriculars, etc. My ex of 5 years joined a maker space and found a girlfriend probably 2 weeks into it.

You're still worthy of love, although I get that it's harder as a short guy. It doesn't define you, and there's other qualities to look for in a person. Appearance does matter, so try to take care of yourself. <3

TBH, Finding someone who wouldn't care will indeed make my happy. I'm not insecure in public, but only when it comes to dating. I see middle school ages kids towards over me but it doesn't bother me much.

I'm not suicidal but man does it hurt. It's not the fact that I never had sex that bothers me but the lack of love and intimacy(the emotional part?

 

[EvisceratedJester]

Tom Holland is 5'6"
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He's got Zenedaya as his gf. He's truly living the life

 

[KillingPain267]

Height doesn't matter when laying down... in the grave

 

[amnesia999]

Also, eople will realize your height when you take them off, unless you're an extremely introverted guy with no friends.

How'd you know?

Anyway, there's a program that ran for 3 seasons on TLC called "My Giant Life". You can find episodes on YouTube. It was all about the lives of 4 or 5 women who were all over 6' 6" tall. Some of them had a tough time finding people to date/relationships. You might find it interesting since it's essentially the same issue you're having, in reverse. (Only one of them, Nancy Mulkey, was a basketball player. She was in high school then, and a "normal height" guy did ask her to the prom. She is in the WNBA now.)

 

[PI3.14]

How'd you know?

Anyway, there's a program that ran for 3 seasons on TLC called "My Giant Life". You can find episodes on YouTube. It was all about the lives of 4 or 5 women who were all over 6' 6" tall. Some of them had a tough time finding people to date/relationships. You might find it interesting since it's essentially the same issue you're having, in reverse. (Only one of them, Nancy Mulkey, was a basketball player. She was in high school

Will definitely watch it.

I do believe that very tall women struggle too. It will be an interesting watch.