Discussion Anyone with social anxiety trying to make friends?

[Greyhawk]

I have really severe social anxiety. I'm sure I've complained about it before. It's so bad that I pretty much freeze up or can't really talk to new people when I'm sober... I literally fear other people so much that I can't even make friends through forums like this. At least not yet. I'm trying to make a change.

I was just at a bar and I wanted to talk to someone so bad. However, the feeling of repulsiveness and self-hatred filled me and I just ended up being alone and leaving. I can see it. Everyone wants me to go away, to disappear. It really makes me want to blow my head off. Then they would be happy :).

I remember a few nights when I could talk to some random people when I was drunk but I can't even do that anymore. How do you beat this???
I really don't know anymore. I have so bad conversational skills too since it's been a long time I talked to other people. Maybe I'm meant to be alone.

 

[Pale_Rider]

I have really severe social anxiety. I'm sure I've complained about it before. It's so bad that I pretty much freeze up or can't really talk to new people when I'm sober... I literally fear other people so much that I can't even make friends through forums like this. At least not yet. I'm trying to make a change.

I was just at a bar and I wanted to talk to someone so bad. However, the feeling of repulsiveness and self-hatred filled me and I just ended up being alone and leaving. I can see it. Everyone wants me to go away, to disappear. It really makes me want to blow my head off. Then they would be happy :).

I remember a few nights when I could talk to some random people when I was drunk but I can't even do that anymore. How do you beat this???
I really don't know anymore. I have so bad conversational skills too since it's been a long time I talked to other people. Maybe I'm meant to be alone.

I'm the same. Though I've given up on socializing. The world is a ceasepool. Just as SI holds us back, some other instinct makes us wish we could socialize even though we know we can't. The world laughs at our pain.

 

[cocoseal]

I feel like this but I can talk to people but lately I just feel SOO different. I feel like I cant connect with people, its really hard for me to that's why making friends is so hard for me. Maybe we can be friends t dude!

 

[Pale_Rider]

I was always awkward, but then life experiences can just push you right over the edge. Now there can be no communication. Not meaningful anyways.

 

[gunmetalblue11]

I heavily relate to your struggle. I've literally become agoraphobic with time.
In the past generally my social anxiety would relax, obviously with booze too, but also knowing someone in the circle I was interacting with. Kind of like my rock or life line. But then again you have to find that person first, and when your completely alone it's practically impossible.
I hope you manage to stumble on someone who could become a positive influence and friend for you.

 

[whippedcream]

I have really severe social anxiety. I'm sure I've complained about it before. It's so bad that I pretty much freeze up or can't really talk to new people when I'm sober... I literally fear other people so much that I can't even make friends through forums like this. At least not yet. I'm trying to make a change.

I was just at a bar and I wanted to talk to someone so bad. However, the feeling of repulsiveness and self-hatred filled me and I just ended up being alone and leaving. I can see it. Everyone wants me to go away, to disappear. It really makes me want to blow my head off. Then they would be happy :).

I remember a few nights when I could talk to some random people when I was drunk but I can't even do that anymore. How do you beat this???
I really don't know anymore. I have so bad conversational skills too since it's been a long time I talked to other people. Maybe I'm meant to be alone.

I used to have really bad social anxiety and this is totally unhelpful but with time it just subsided. I'm still awkward but I can ask employees for help and talk to people I dont know easily enough. You just have to get into your head that we're all going to die anyway and it just truly does not matter. Like even if you say something incredibly stupid and annoying, people will forget it in a couple hours. No one cares that much so just say and do whatever you want. Sorry if thats stupid but it's genuinely the mindset that got me out of it. Anyway, I hope things get better for you and you manage to find your way through it

 

[Scribble Fan]

Yes, I'm also terrified that people will try to hurt me. Plus, I have absolutely no idea how to make small talk. This makes me feel very lonely. I wish I had friends.

 

[Greyhawk]

Yes, I'm also terrified that people will try to hurt me. Plus, I have absolutely no idea how to make small talk. This makes me feel very lonely. I wish I had friends.

Same. It's a vicious cycle where isolation causes worse anxiety/paranoia and the deterioration of social skills which causes more isolation.

 

[ScaredCutter]

same same but i dont drink. it feels so hard just to even be near somebody without feeling like im being judged. im also terrified of being attacked by somebody so i will just slowly be avoidant until whatever is happening stops and then leave. i cant even say hi to ppl and if i try, my body gets so hot and im full of embarrasment that i end up crying.

i cant even make online friends because i leave them so quick over what to do with them. only got my bf.

i hope i can talk to others, i even feel embarrased when i talk in forums.

 

[Greyhawk]

same same but i dont drink. it feels so hard just to even be near somebody without feeling like im being judged. im also terrified of being attacked by somebody so i will just slowly be avoidant until whatever is happening stops and then leave. i cant even say hi to ppl and if i try, my body gets so hot and im full of embarrasment that i end up crying.

i cant even make online friends because i leave them so quick over what to do with them. only got my bf.

i hope i can talk to others, i even feel embarrased when i talk in forums.

The anxiety over posting has gotten a little bit better for me lately. I'm just trying to put my true feelings and thoughts here and they will either get ignored, hated or accepted. I'm not going to make any progress by pretending to be something else. It's just really hard sometimes.