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While I totally agree with what you're saying, being an empath is a completely draining, exhausting experience that often causes unnecessary pain and suffering that that person has no control over. This is of course when you're around people that are themselves experiencing negative emotions that you feel yourself. I for instance, can look at my husband's face or simply observe his body language and I can feel how he's feeling. And these days, all I feel is depression, anger, guilt, frustration, etc. it's a total nightmare! This is a big part of why I want to ctb.
I think is a good example of the situation above. Sometimes people are very empathetic and need to not be alone when they see stuff like that. And I get that people need that but sometimes it doesn't make sense to "care" in that definition. The disconnect is that most people don't associate "caring" with requiring action. They think "caring and empathy" are the same. And IMO, they're not. I believe more strongly in the thinking that Miss_Takes provided. It's better in some situations to empathize or ignore it, being expected to care about something outside of one's control just doesn't make sense. Honestly I've just seen so much, maybe I'm desensitized to it. Like there's a reason I don't watch the news or anything anymore. I'm already not doing well, I don't need to know about every horrible event that happens each day in the world. So yeah overburdening yourself with issues out of your control that you can't properly "care" for is a massive detriment to oneself. However something much smaller and local, like if you see a stranger fall over, or maybe can't afford a cup of coffee or something, maybe even going as far as to give someone a free meal or something then yeah sure go for it. I think family will always naturally come first for me at least, but the other thing is that you'll probably never get close enough if they're a "stranger" to know what they really need. Like someone on the street might not need more money or another meal, but rather affordable housing, a job, proper healthcare. And at the end of the day, often times, we as singular person with problems of our own, can't afford to fix someone's entire life, whether it's because of finances, energy, or other problems, but can rather only offer empathy and try to comfort others.
