Anyone else notice that people treat you bad when you don’t let them have their way?

[Kramer]

For instance, I'll end a conversation if a person purposely interrupts me. I won't go along to get along because I will not be manipulated. Apparently these are bad things to do. Being a doormat is not what I want for myself.

 

[Antigonish]

I understand, sometimes people treat me terrible because of my lack of interest. I think. They get allot nicer when I play along.

 

[Sprite_Geist]

For instance, I'll end a conversation if a person purposely interrupts me. I won't go along to get along because I will not be manipulated. Apparently these are bad things to do. Being a doormat is not what I want for myself.

It might be because you are not giving the reaction that they want. It is like when someone insults or mocks you with the purpose of making you angry, but instead you respond calmly which in turn frustrates them. They become angry, because they failed to make you angry.

 

[stygal]

It's not only that but I noticed people tend to message me again when they really have ulterior motives in mind and just want me to help them with work or a gift (for another person) or (in the past) sex but never to actually ask me how I'm doing and what's going on in my life. It gets frustrating after a while.

 

[NightmareTour]

People like me when I people please and struggle to say no. But when it gets to the point that I start setting boundaries, they complain, get angry, and tell me I'm being selfish. Just another reason I cut everyone off.

Most people seem to only like people who are useful to them in some way.

 

[Sprite_Geist]

People like me when I people please and struggle to say no. But when it gets to the point that I start setting boundaries, they complain, get angry, and tell me I'm being selfish. Just another reason I cut everyone off.

Most people seem to only like people who are useful to them in some way.

They are being selfish too for not respecting your boundaries. Part of the meaning of that word is to only care about your own objectives (self-interests) and no one elses, or alternatively it can mean to prioritise your interests over others. That is what they are doing when they use you as a tool for their own ends - without regard of how that might hurt you.

"Selfish" is a word that people sometimes use when they are upset that they cannot get their own way with other individuals - which, by definition, makes them selfish.

 

[b&w]

I've noticed this as well, they think they have the right to walk all over you and call you names, and if you decide to leave they guilt you by saying that you thought of them as a joke. Humans are very egotistical and entitled. One person told me that putting up boundaries is a way of me controlling them, lol. It's like to them I don't even have the right to my own actions, and it doesn't help that I have a pathological need to be liked.