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c0rps3_l1k3

so damn tired
Jan 8, 2025
7
i'm in a long term relationship and i really love my girlfriend but i truly can't keep living. how do i get over the guilt of abandoning her? also how do i hide planning to CTB from her?

is anyone else going through this? what are you doing to deal with it?
 
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ForeverCaHa

ForeverCaHa

Heartbroken Welshman
Feb 16, 2025
443
As someone whose partner committed suicide several weeks ago, I would highly recommend ending the relationship and waiting a month at least. A relationship ending due to suicide is awful, I wouldn't wish it on anyone. It simply isn't something one can recover from, ever.
As someone who also plans to CTB, I understand the urgency. Still, I believe we have a responsibility to shield the ones we love from the intense grief in any way we can. I ultimately cannot decide for you, but my advice is coming from a place of real pain.
 
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zappynomore

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Feb 22, 2025
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No question if you truly love her and and 100 percent commited to doing this you have to break up with her even if its some bs reason that hurts her. Then you have to wait a good amount of time weeks and weeks if not months before you do it. Just so she does not blame herself.

The only alternative really is you tell her and see if you two together can get you the help and treatment you need to try and overcome this. But the big issue with that of course is it puts a lot of burden and pressure on her. Only you know if you want to do that.
 
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